According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
Silent Walking’ Is The Latest Trend Gen Z Are Obsessed With
People who were born in the middle of the 1990s and the beginning of the 2010s are known as Generation Z, and they frequently consider themselves to be significant members of modern society. Their influence is often demonstrated by a variety of trends, such the movement to phase out narrow jeans and the passionate reaction to the “bed rotting” issue.
But the newest trend enthralling Zoomers transcends style or bedroom furnishings; it’s known as Silent Walking.
Co-host of the Okay Sis podcast Mady Maio presents a trend she unwittingly started in a TikTok video. Promoted as a paradigm-shifting movement, “silent walking.” Silent walking harkens back to a time when individuals enjoyed the simplicity of a walk without the burden of smartphones, music, podcasts, or any other technical distractions, in contrast to the contemporary technologically driven world.
In the video, Maio promotes going on a stroll by yourself, without the use of podcasts, music, or AirPods. She talks about the first two minutes of mayhem, but at first she hesitates because she is nervous. eventually reaches a “flow state,” in which she says she has attained clarity. Silent strolling, in Maio’s opinion, created room for reflection. enabling her to use her intuition and to hear the universe’s whispers.
Even though Maio may have popularized quiet walking, the phrase was apparently originally used to describe simple, tech-free walking before it became commonplace.
More precisely, earlier in the year by Arielle Lorre, a New York City influencer. Lorre highlights the advantages of this practice, highlighting experiences of groundedness and heightened senses. While some social media users hail the movement as a life-changing phenomenon, others make fun of the notion. referring to it as a return to a banal pastime of walking without the use of technology.
Some people talk about their pleasant experiences.
describing silent walking as a powerful tool for intention manifestation and a game-changer for mental health. Critics point out that it is ironic to hail a simple, tech-free stroll as groundbreaking. wondering if Generation Z has really discovered a long-standing custom. Phrases such as “Gen Z just discovered walking y’all” highlight the novelty attached to a daily activity that previous generations were familiar with.
The trend highlights how reliant society is on technology. People’s mockery of the idea that going for a 30-minute walk without using any electronics is “game-changing” illustrates how much technology has ingrained itself into daily life. This phenomenon is consistent with research showing negative effects on mental health from excessive online activity.
Science can contribute something significant.
According to scientific studies, an excessive dependence on digital devices can seriously impair cognitive functions and lead to sloppy thinking. These are necessary for comprehending and turning data into knowledge. Essentially, the quiet walking movement raises questions and provokes laughter, but it also speaks to something deeper. the difficult balancing act between our hyperconnected world’s need for self-reflection and simple times with the integration of technology.
The debate around silent walking highlights how Generation Z’s connection with technology—whether viewed as a game-changing discovery or as a nostalgic trip back to a time before technology—is changing.
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