According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
This Retired Icon Was One of the Sexiest Women of the 20th Century, Secretly Married, & Disappeared for Years
On her 89th birthday, French legend Brigitte Bardot was spotted for the first time in a long time.
The celebrity has been with her loving husband for 31 years, and he never leaves her side.
News outlets claim that the movie star, who experienced a health crisis earlier this year, got married in secret to her husband.
As the entertainment industry’s “it” girl for eternity, Brigitte Bardot, a French superstar, led a colorful existence. Her famous roles in multiple silver screen productions have earned her recognition and admiration.
The French blonde beauty topped the list of the prettiest female stars of the 20th century thanks to Playboy, which is well-known for its features and displays of gorgeous famous ladies. She is even considered the greatest “It” girl of all time by other media sources.
Brigitte ranks fourth on Playboy’s list of the sexiest female stars, but aside from her attractive appearance, she’s also well-known for her pouty lips. She was also named the most watched star in her native nation due to her seductive charisma and sexy confidence.
Brigitte has established a reputation as a passionate animal rights activist in addition to her achievements as an actor and general performer. Regarding her personal life, the well-liked celebrity, also known by her stage as BB, has been married to Bernard d’Ormale for 31 years and has a single child.
Few friends joined the couple for their special day as they secretly tied the wedding in August 1992, according to media agencies. Since then, the couple has been happy together. When Brigitte and Bernard got married unexpectedly and covertly, acquaintances of the “Contempt” star said to a news outlet that she was happiest than she had been in a long time.
Remarkably, Brigitte’s acquaintances had doubted that she would marry again after her previous spouse died. This was before the two got married. Nevertheless, the couple was married in a charming little wooden chapel in Norway and shared Brigitte’s opulent ten-bedroom house in Saint-Tropez.
Bernard has been Brigitte’s support system since their first meeting, notably throughout her health crises. Brigitte’s hero instantly calmed the extremely alarmed people when it was initially revealed in French media that their much-loved star had supposedly overdosed on sedatives in 1992 while at home by explaining:
Brigitte was so exhausted that she overindulged in medicine in an attempt to fall asleep.She was OK after a few hours and did not have her stomach pumped.
Brigitte’s condition was further verified by a representative of the clinic where she was brought, confirming Bernard’s claim. But Brigitte had to deal with another health issue years after her sedative fright.
Bernard verified that Brigitte had trouble breathing earlier this year. Fortunately, emergency responders saw to it right away, giving her oxygen and staying with her to make sure she was okay.
Bernard attributed his wife’s respiratory issues on aging and weather-related factors, mentioning a severe heatwave that was at the time affecting most of Europe. It seemed that their La Madrague home’s air conditioning system was not operating at its best.
A news outlet had claimed that Brigitte had remained in the intensive care unit (ICU) despite assurances to the public to the contrary. But the “A Very Private Affair” star corrected the record in a handwritten note:
“I would like to reassure everyone.” I am doing excellently. I was sick, and the press made a big deal out of it.
The beloved figure was recently observed out and about in an unusual appearance. Earlier this year, the icon suffered respiratory issues. Brigitte was photographed by paparazzi enjoying a drive in the South of France on her 89th birthday.
From her La Madrague house to her La Garigue residence, the actress was spotted traveling in a tiny white van. Only a few stray strands of her renowned blond hair framed her face because it was fastened back. She was also wearing large sunglasses to protect her eyes from the sun.
A few months after emergency personnel arrived at Brigitte’s house to help her with her respiratory problems and several years after she was last spotted in public, the uncommon outing occurs.
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