
But what he said next… none of us were prepared for.
“Marigold…” The word slipped out like a forgotten melody, fragile but clear.
“Marigold?” I repeated softly, unsure if I’d heard correctly.Mr. Callahan turned his head slightly toward me, his cloudy blue eyes flickering with something that resembled recognition. “She used to bring me flowers every Sunday. Marigolds. Said they matched my hair when I was young.” A faint smile played on his lips as he scratched behind Riley’s ears absentmindedly. “She always brought them, even after…” His voice trailed off, leaving the sentence unfinished, heavy with unspoken memories.
The nurse beside me shifted uncomfortably. She leaned in closer to whisper, “He hasn’t mentioned anyone by name in months. Not since…” Her voice faltered, and she didn’t finish her thought either.
Riley tilted his head, sensing the change in energy, and let out a soft whine. It seemed to snap Mr. Callahan back to the present. He patted Riley’s side lightly before looking at me again. “You remind me of her,” he said suddenly, surprising both of us. “The way you look at your dog. She had a way with animals too.”
My throat tightened. I wasn’t sure how to respond, so I just smiled warmly and asked, “Who was she?”
For the first time since we entered the room, Mr. Callahan sat up a little straighter. His gaze softened as though he were peering through decades of memory. “Her name was Eleanor. We grew up together in a small town nobody’s ever heard of. She was the only person who believed I could do anything worthwhile with my life.” He paused, his fingers brushing against Riley’s fur absently. “We got married right out of high school. Everyone thought we were crazy—young kids tying themselves down—but it worked. For fifty years, it worked.”
His words hung in the air, thick with nostalgia and longing. But there was also an undercurrent of pain, a shadow lurking beneath the surface of his story. Something about his tone told me this wasn’t going to end happily.
“What happened?” I asked quietly, bracing myself for whatever came next.
His face darkened, and for a moment, I wondered if he’d retreat back into silence. Instead, he sighed deeply, the weight of years pressing down on him. “Eleanor passed away two years ago. Cancer. They said it was quick, but it didn’t feel that way to me. Watching someone you love waste away… it takes longer than you think.” He swallowed hard, his hands trembling slightly. “After she was gone, everything felt empty. I stopped talking. Stopped eating. Stopped caring. Even the marigolds in our garden died because I couldn’t bring myself to water them anymore.”A lump formed in my throat. I glanced at the nurse, whose eyes were glistening with tears. This was more than just a patient reconnecting with the world—it was a man rediscovering pieces of himself he’d buried along with his wife.
Riley must have sensed the shift too because he nudged Mr. Callahan’s arm, drawing his attention back to the present. The old man chuckled weakly, scratching Riley’s neck. “You’re persistent, aren’t you? Just like Eleanor used to be.”
That’s when it hit me—the twist no one saw coming. Maybe it wasn’t just coincidence that Riley had sparked this breakthrough. Dogs have a way of connecting people to their deepest emotions, bridging gaps we don’t even realize exist. And maybe, just maybe, Riley wasn’t here by chance.
As if reading my thoughts, Mr. Callahan added, “You know, Eleanor always wanted a dog, but we never had space for one. She would’ve loved him.” He gestured toward Riley, who wagged his tail enthusiastically. “Maybe she sent him to find me.”The room fell silent except for the rhythmic ticking of the clock on the wall. It wasn’t a religious statement or a supernatural claim—it was simply a man finding comfort in the idea that love transcends even death. That somehow, somewhere, Eleanor was still looking out for him.
Before I could respond, Mr. Callahan surprised me once more. “Can you take me outside? I haven’t been out in weeks.” His voice carried a mix of determination and vulnerability, like a child asking permission for something they desperately needed.
I exchanged a glance with the nurse, who nodded approvingly. “Of course,” I said, helping him sit up fully. With Riley leading the way, we slowly made our way to the hospital courtyard. The sun was setting, painting the sky in hues of orange and pink. Mr. Callahan took it all in, his eyes wide with wonder, as though seeing the world anew.
When we reached a bench surrounded by flower beds, he stopped and pointed to a cluster of bright yellow blooms. “Marigolds,” he said softly, his voice cracking. “They planted marigolds here.”Without another word, he sat down, leaning forward to touch the petals. Tears streamed down his face, but they weren’t tears of sadness—they were tears of gratitude, of remembrance, of love renewed.
Later that evening, as I tucked Riley into his bed at home, I reflected on what had happened. It wasn’t just about Mr. Callahan speaking again; it was about connection. About how even in our darkest moments, there’s always a thread pulling us back toward light—if we’re willing to follow it.
Life is full of losses, big and small. Sometimes, we lose people, dreams, or parts of ourselves. But healing doesn’t mean forgetting—it means finding new ways to carry those we’ve lost with us. Whether it’s through a memory, a flower, or a furry companion, love has a way of finding us when we need it most.
If this story touched your heart, please share it with others. Let’s spread a little hope and remind each other that even in silence, there’s always a chance to speak again.
Matt Heath: My parting message: Enjoy things while they are around

A lot of big, tragic and important things have happened to this wonderful country of ours since April 2014. None of which I have covered. I was too busy writing about hungover parenting, ancient philosophy and my dog Colin.
Out of the 536 columns I have written, 27 were about that guy. Far too few. He is such a good boy, he deserves an article a week.
Today is the end of an era for me, and whenever these final events pop up in our lives, we can’t help but think about the ultimate end.
Everything we do, we will one day do for the last time. That’s why you have to enjoy things while they are around. It’s not just big events like leaving a job, house or loved one either. Whatever moment you happen to be in now, you will never get it back, and you don’t know how many more you have.
Everything we do in life, from eating pizza to spending time with the people we love, to driving, writing, drinking or breathing, we will one day experience for the final time. It might happen tomorrow. This can be either a depressing or an inspiring thought, depending on how you look at it.
A few years back in this column, I interviewed professor of philosophy William B Irvine, of Wright State University, Ohio, on this very topic. He put it this way on a Zoom call: “Recognition of the impermanence of everything in life can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. The only way we can be truly alive is if we make it our business periodically to entertain thoughts of the end.”
Today’s column is very meaningful to me because it is my last. Like the last night with a lover before she goes overseas. And just like a lover, there have been some half-arsed efforts put in from me over the years. Last week, for example, I spent 750 words moaning about how bad my cricket team is. But the truth is that any of my columns could have been the final. If I had reminded myself every week for the past 10 years that the end is inevitable, I may have been more grateful for having a column and appreciated writing them all as much as I am this one.
While everything we do could have more meaning with a focus on finitude, some things are inherently more worthwhile than others. There is no doubt my column “The pros and cons of wearing Speedos” from November 2022 was less meaningful than most things in this world. That was a waste of everyone’s time. So, if we only have so much time, how do we pick the best things to do?
Well, Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks – Time Management For Mortals, suggested this to me in a 2022 column: “Ask yourself, does this choice enlarge me? You usually know on some unspoken level if it does. That’s a good way to distinguish between options.”
With that in mind, I don’t feel great about my 2018 article on “New Zealand’s best hole”. That didn’t enlarge anyone.
There will be people reading this column right now who have loved my writing in the Herald and are sad to see it end. Others will have hated it and are glad to see me go. Many won’t have any opinion at all. But for those in the first camp, I have good news. I have a book coming out on May 28 called A Life Less Punishing – 13 Ways To Love The Life You Got (Allen and Unwin Book Publishers). It’s a deep dive into the history, philosophy and science of not wasting our time lost in anger, loneliness, humiliation, stress, fear, boredom and all the other ways we find to not enjoy perfectly good lives. It’s available for pre-order right now (google it if you’re interested).
A Life Less Punishing took me two years to write and is equivalent in words to 100 of these columns. Which would be a complete nightmare for those in the hate camp, but as I say, great news for those who want more.
Anyway, thanks to the Herald for having me, thanks to the lovely people who make an effort to say nice things to me about my column nearly every day and thanks to the universe for every single second we get.
Bless!
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