Jake and Mary Jacobs marked their 70th anniversary of a happy marriage last year, but their journey wasn’t simple.
Mary, who is White, and Jake, who is Black, lived in the same city in 1940s Britain. At that time, there weren’t many Black men there.
Even though Mary’s father told her to leave, Mary chose love over easy choices.
“When I told my father I was going to marry Jake, he said, ‘If you marry that man, you will never set foot in this house again.’”
Mary and Jake first met at a technical college where Mary was learning typing and shorthand, and Jake was undergoing Air Force training. They met during the war when Jake moved from Trinidad to Britain.
Jake impressed Mary with his understanding of Shakespeare, and they got to know each other. One day, they invited Mary and her friend to join them for a picnic. Unfortunately, someone passing by saw them and reported Mary to her father. The woman was shocked to see two English girls talking with black guys. After this incident, Mary wasn’t allowed to visit her father again.
After Jake returned to Trinidad, they kept in touch through letters. A few years later, he came back to the U.K. to find a better-paying job.
Jake surprised Mary by proposing, and she, at 19, said yes. However, when she told her family, they kicked her out.
“I left with only one small suitcase. No family came to our registry office wedding in 1948.”
Mary’s father was upset about her marrying a black man, and Mary didn’t realize that society felt the same way.
The early years of their marriage in Birmingham were tough. Mary cried every day, hardly ate, and they faced many challenges. Nobody would talk to them, they couldn’t find a place to live because nobody would rent to a black man, and they had little money.
Even walking down the street together was hard because people would point at them, Mary explained.
Mary and Jake were excited to become parents, but at eight months, Mary gave birth to a stillborn child. She mentioned it wasn’t due to the stress she was under, but it deeply saddened them, and they didn’t have any more children.
As time passed, their lives improved. Mary became a teacher and eventually an assistant principal, while Jake found a job with the Post Office. They made new friends, but Mary felt the need to explain to people that her husband was black before introducing them.
“My father passed away when I was 30, and even though we reconciled by then, he never approved of Jake,” she shared.
Currently, Jake, 89, and Mary, 84, live in Solihull, a town south of Birmingham. They recently celebrated 70 years of marriage.
Jake said he has no regrets, but he also mentioned that today’s black youth may not fully understand the challenges he faced in 1940s Britain.
“When I arrived in the U.K., I faced abuse every day. Once, on a bus, a man rubbed his hands on my neck and said, ‘I wanted to see if the dirt would come off.’ Back then, working in an office as a black man with white girls wasn’t considered safe,” Jake explained.
Despite all the challenges, bias, and abuse, the pair is still deeply in love and has no regrets about being married. They have been happily married for more than 70 years.
These two are a true inspiration, and I wish them a lifetime of pleasure because of the love they have for one another.
Navy Dad Comes Home To Newborn Son, Turns To His Wife And Says Four Words Nobody Expected
Every time a loved one is sent overseas, military families deal with tremendous difficulties. For many families, saying goodbye—possibly for the final time—is an agonizing reality.
It’s a daunting idea to consider the possibility of never seeing each other again. Military troops must make life-or-death decisions while on duty and must count down the days until they can go home. Their families also struggle, juggling obstacles in daily life without the help of a loved one. Keeping in touch while serving overseas is still challenging, despite the availability of contemporary tools like video calls.
Lt. Michael Lemmons of the US Navy also experienced this. His wife gave birth to their son while he was stationed overseas. Lemmons related this story to twenty-seven other crew members who had not seen their babies born. They could not wait to see their new family members when they returned.
Lemmons’s face beams in a touching video when he sees his wife waiting for him on the dock. He finally gets to see his newborn kid as he rushes to her side. She holds their small, darling child in her arms.
Lemmons erupts, overcome with emotion, saying, “He’s perfect.” I’m grateful. He wanted to thank his wife for bearing with him through the ordeal of giving birth and for keeping the household running well. He recognizes the difficulties of being a single parent.
His wife started crying when she heard his sincere remarks. While her husband was serving the nation, she felt appreciated for all that she had done. Even though her efforts were less apparent, they were clearly important.
Lemmons and his wife held their newborn in their arms. Now that their family was complete, they could finally mend their relationship. Lemmons loved spending time with his wife and new baby because he knew he wouldn’t have this much time to spend at home and that he would soon have to serve again.
Supportive remarks were made on Lt. Lemmons’s heartwarming reunion on YouTube.
“My husband was aboard the US Bataan when they were deployed for ten and a half months,” a viewer shared. When they returned home, they had about 150 new fathers—and that number did not include the Marines.
What do you think of this Navy father’s sincere response upon seeing his newborn son?
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