Jake and Mary Jacobs marked their 70th anniversary of a happy marriage last year, but their journey wasn’t simple.
Mary, who is White, and Jake, who is Black, lived in the same city in 1940s Britain. At that time, there weren’t many Black men there.
Even though Mary’s father told her to leave, Mary chose love over easy choices.
“When I told my father I was going to marry Jake, he said, ‘If you marry that man, you will never set foot in this house again.’”
Mary and Jake first met at a technical college where Mary was learning typing and shorthand, and Jake was undergoing Air Force training. They met during the war when Jake moved from Trinidad to Britain.
Jake impressed Mary with his understanding of Shakespeare, and they got to know each other. One day, they invited Mary and her friend to join them for a picnic. Unfortunately, someone passing by saw them and reported Mary to her father. The woman was shocked to see two English girls talking with black guys. After this incident, Mary wasn’t allowed to visit her father again.
After Jake returned to Trinidad, they kept in touch through letters. A few years later, he came back to the U.K. to find a better-paying job.
Jake surprised Mary by proposing, and she, at 19, said yes. However, when she told her family, they kicked her out.
“I left with only one small suitcase. No family came to our registry office wedding in 1948.”
Mary’s father was upset about her marrying a black man, and Mary didn’t realize that society felt the same way.
The early years of their marriage in Birmingham were tough. Mary cried every day, hardly ate, and they faced many challenges. Nobody would talk to them, they couldn’t find a place to live because nobody would rent to a black man, and they had little money.
Even walking down the street together was hard because people would point at them, Mary explained.
Mary and Jake were excited to become parents, but at eight months, Mary gave birth to a stillborn child. She mentioned it wasn’t due to the stress she was under, but it deeply saddened them, and they didn’t have any more children.
As time passed, their lives improved. Mary became a teacher and eventually an assistant principal, while Jake found a job with the Post Office. They made new friends, but Mary felt the need to explain to people that her husband was black before introducing them.
“My father passed away when I was 30, and even though we reconciled by then, he never approved of Jake,” she shared.
Currently, Jake, 89, and Mary, 84, live in Solihull, a town south of Birmingham. They recently celebrated 70 years of marriage.
Jake said he has no regrets, but he also mentioned that today’s black youth may not fully understand the challenges he faced in 1940s Britain.
“When I arrived in the U.K., I faced abuse every day. Once, on a bus, a man rubbed his hands on my neck and said, ‘I wanted to see if the dirt would come off.’ Back then, working in an office as a black man with white girls wasn’t considered safe,” Jake explained.
Despite all the challenges, bias, and abuse, the pair is still deeply in love and has no regrets about being married. They have been happily married for more than 70 years.
These two are a true inspiration, and I wish them a lifetime of pleasure because of the love they have for one another.
How Vanity Items Became Collectible Art?!
Within the realm of retro beauty accessories, the lipstick case is a notable representation of glitz, sophistication, and individual flair. Vintage lipstick cases were made to be more than simply a place to store lipstick; they were works of art that could be found in any woman’s handbag, a far cry from the disposable, frequently simple packaging of today’s cosmetics. These cases, which date from the early 20th century to the mid-20th century, are highly sought-after objects for collectors and lovers of vintage beauty products because they capture the style, materials, and craftsmanship of their eras.
Vintage lipstick cases were a reflection of the artistic sensibilities of their day, made from a range of materials such as brass, gold plating, enamel, semi-precious stones, and exquisite etchings or inlays. Cases with geometric designs, crisp lines, and opulent metallic embellishments were popular in the 1920s and 1930s, reflecting the Art Deco trend. A return to femininity and luxury was witnessed throughout the post-war era, as cases grew more elaborate and included romantic designs, like as flowers and birds, which were frequently inlaid with pearls or colored stones.
These enclosures were technical and functional miracles in addition to being stunning. Many included an integrated mirror that made it possible to apply lipstick while on the go, and some even had a little space for powder or a miniature perfume bottle, which embodied the era’s requirement for small, efficient accessories. These jewels were masterfully crafted; designers such as Cartier, Van Cleef & Arpels, and Tiffany & Co. created pieces that served as status symbols in addition to being useful.
Vintage lipstick cases are nostalgic and provide insight into the everyday routines and particular preferences of ladies from the past. They take us back to a bygone era when beauty routines were infused with a feeling of elegance and formality, which contrasts sharply with the modern emphasis on efficiency and speed. Many people have developed a passion for collecting these items because of their artistry and beauty as well as the histories and tales they represent.
Vintage lipstick cases require careful cleaning and periodic polishing (for metal cases only) to keep them shiny and free of tarnish. The excitement of the chase is part of the fascination of searching for these gems, which can lead aficionados to antique stores, estate sales, and online auctions. A vintage lipstick case is more than simply a container, whether it’s on show on a vanity or tucked away in a purse; it’s a tiny piece of history and a relic of a bygone era’s devotion to elegance and beauty.
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