In August 2017, Tony Alarcon’s phone rang unexpectedly.
Like many parents, he thought it might be a telemarketer. But this time, he answered the call.
Hearing from the school can be nerve-wracking for any parent. Tony immediately started worrying—was his daughter, Demetra, okay? Had something happened?
What he found out left him surprised.
It was a hot summer day in Northern California, with temperatures reaching 90 degrees. Tony had dropped off his 13-year-old daughter, Demetra, at school that morning. She wore a blue romper to stay cool in the heat, and neither of them thought the outfit would cause any issues.
Demetra, a student at Raymond J. Fisher Middle School in Los Gatos, California, had simply dressed for the weather.
Not everyone agreed with Demetra’s outfit. A teacher at her school said her romper was “too distracting” for the boys.
When the teacher told Demetra that her outfit was too short, her dad, Tony, rushed back to the school with a change of clothes—jean shorts and a tank top. But the school said those clothes were also inappropriate.
Tony was shocked. He asked Demetra to bend over and touch her toes in front of the school administrator. “Nothing is hanging out. There’s nothing inappropriate. I don’t understand this dress code rule,” he told TODAY.
Still, the school said her clothes were “distracting.” Since it was 90 degrees outside, Tony had no choice but to go to his car and grab a pair of leggings for Demetra to wear.
Demetra felt embarrassed.
Tony expressed his frustration, saying, “She’s just a kid. She’s only 13. She’s not trying to be a sex symbol. She just wants to be comfortable and attend class, but we’re not giving her that chance.”
This wasn’t the first time Demetra had been in trouble for her clothes. Just a week before, she was called out for a visible bra strap. “When I got dress coded last week, they said my bra strap was showing,” Demetra told the *San Jose Mercury News*. “Like, I’m wearing a bra—what’s the big deal?”
Tony, a successful investment advisor and father of two, didn’t let it go. Angry at what he saw as an unfair rule that mostly targeted girls, he took his complaint to social media. Parents from all over the country showed their support, agreeing that the school’s dress code was outdated and unfair to girls.
“Demetra’s not the only one. If you sit in the school parking lot, you’ll see that,” Tony said. “Lots of girls just want to be comfortable, but they feel forced to wear leggings even when it’s 100 degrees outside.”
Tony believed that parents, not schools, should decide if their children’s clothes are appropriate. He was also worried about how being told their clothing is a “distraction” to boys could affect young girls emotionally in the long run.
The story quickly got attention from the media, with major news outlets reporting on Tony’s efforts to change the dress code. While the school didn’t speak on camera, they did release a statement:
“The Los Gatos Union School District believes that appropriate dress and grooming contribute to a productive learning environment,” the district said. “Students are expected to wear clothes that reflect the core values of our learning community.”
Tony’s efforts made an impact. His push for change led the Los Gatos Union School District to reevaluate its dress code to make it fairer and less strict for all students.
Lisa Fraser, the school’s principal, explained that the dress code rules, called “Fashion Faux Pas,” apply to both girls and boys. Some of the rules include no hats or hoods indoors, no visible underwear, no inappropriate logos or words, and shorts must have at least 4-inch inseams.
“There has always been a dress code,” Fraser told a newspaper. “These are basic rules for appropriate behavior. I can set guidelines for the school, but I want them to reflect the community’s values.”
In the end, Tony Alarcon’s persistence started an important discussion about how school dress codes affect young girls — showing that one parent’s voice can truly make a difference.
What do you think about the school’s dress code? Have you or your children faced a similar situation? Share your thoughts and experiences in the comments!
At the age of 4, she garnered the title “the most beautiful girl in the world” – Here’s how she looks at 20 years old
In a world where every child possesses a unique kind of beauty, there are some whose allure is so enchanting that they effortlessly claim the spotlight as the most beautiful children in the world. Thylane, a young girl whose mere presence stole the hearts of many, serves as a prime example of such captivating charm.
Right from her earliest days, Thylane’s distinctive grey eyes and curly locks cast a spell on all who beheld her. Even in her toddler years, her arresting features caught the attention of modeling scouts eager to work with her.
While countless individuals spend years navigating the complex terrain of the modeling world, striving to secure coveted roles in fashion shows, Thylane’s path unfolded with remarkable ease, her innate beauty acting as a key to unlock doors of opportunity.
By the tender age of 10, Thylane had already claimed the title of the world’s most beautiful child. She stood out among her peers as one of the rare few to grace the illustrious pages of Vogue and adorn the covers of esteemed magazines.
Yet, amidst the acclaim and adoration, Thylane’s family found themselves under scrutiny for introducing her to the world of modeling at such a young age. Many critics argued that instead of being thrust into the spotlight of photoshoots and fashion events, Thylane should have been free to revel in the joys of childhood, spending time with friends and frolicking outdoors like any other 10-year-old.
However, unmoved by the naysayers, Thylane’s parents stood firm in their convictions, steadfastly defending their choices in raising their daughter.
As Thylane’s star continued to rise, she ventured into the realm of acting, spurred on by the interest of numerous producers eager to collaborate with her.
After a brief foray into the world of cinema, Thylane found herself drawn back to her roots in the fashion and beauty industry once more.
Now a blossomed young woman, recent photographs depict Thylane alongside her beau amidst the picturesque landscapes of the south of France. The images captured during their romantic getaway reveal a deep and abiding affection between them, a testament to the love they share.
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