After losing my baby, I also lost my hair — and then my fiancé. He dumped me with the cruel words, “You’re not the person I fell in love with.” Three months later, he was dating my sister. A year after we split, I walked into their wedding and everyone gasped when they saw my transformation.
I used to believe that true love meant finding your perfect match and living happily ever after. Looking back now, I realize how naïve I was, but that’s the thing about love: it makes you believe in fairy tales.
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“Are you sure about this?” Brian asked, his hand resting on my still-flat stomach.
We were lying in bed, basking in the glow of his proposal just hours before. The ring felt heavy on my finger, but my heart was light. The diamond caught the morning sunlight, sending tiny rainbows dancing across our bedroom walls.
“I’ve never been more sure of anything,” I whispered back, threading my fingers through his. “We’re going to be a family.”
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I remember how his eyes lit up, how he kissed my forehead and promised we’d be the best parents ever.
“I already started looking at baby furniture online,” he admitted sheepishly. “I know it’s early, but I couldn’t help myself.”
“You did?” I laughed, snuggling closer. “Show me!”
But fate can be cruel. Two weeks later, I sat in a sterile hospital room, clutching Brian’s hand as the doctor delivered the news that would shatter our perfect beginning.
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The baby was gone. The words hung in the air like poison, seeping into every corner of our world.
“These things happen sometimes,” the doctor said gently. “It’s nobody’s fault. You can try again when you’re ready.”
But it felt like my fault, and the grief was killing me. That’s when I started losing my hair. Every morning, I’d wake up to find more strands of hair on my pillow, in my brush, circling the shower drain.
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At first, it was just a little more than usual, then clumps, then whole patches. I stopped looking in mirrors because I couldn’t stand the stranger staring back at me.
Brian pretended everything was okay, but noticed the way his eyes would skip over my thinning spots, and the way his touch became hesitant, almost clinical.
One evening, he asked me to sit down at our kitchen table. The same table where we’d planned our wedding just months before, choosing color schemes and debating flower arrangements.
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“I can’t do this anymore,” he said, his voice flat. “You’re not the person I fell in love with. You’ve changed.”
I gripped the edge of the table so hard my knuckles turned white. “Changed? Of course I’ve changed. We lost our baby.”
“It’s more than that.” He wouldn’t meet my eyes. “I’m calling off the wedding.”
“So you’re just giving up? After everything we’ve been through?” My voice cracked. “After all our plans, our dreams?”
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“I’m sorry,” he said, but his voice held no real emotion. “I think it’s best if I move out this weekend.”
“Don’t do this, Brian,” I pleaded. “We can work through this together. We can get counseling, take some time…”
“I’ve made up my mind,” he cut me off. “I’ll come by Saturday to get my things.”
I spent the next few months in a fog, barely leaving my apartment except for work.
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The hair loss continued, and I started wearing scarves to hide the worst of it. My friends tried to help, but their pity was almost worse than being alone.
Then came the day my mother called, her voice tight with tension. “Honey, there’s something you need to know. It’s about Brian… and Sarah.”
“Sarah?” I repeated, confused. “What about them?”
“They’re… seeing each other. Your sister and Brian. They’ve been dating for a few weeks now.”
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My sister. My own sister was dating my ex-fiancé! The betrayal sent me into a tailspin, and the remaining patches of my hair fell out completely.
It was all too much to bear. I finally went to see a doctor about my hair loss. I’d thought it would go away as suddenly as it had started, but the doctor soon shattered my hopes.
“You have Alopecia Areata, an autoimmune condition triggered by severe stress,” she said. “While we can try various treatments, there’s no guaranteed cure. But many people learn to manage it successfully.”
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A year passed. I thought I’d hit rock bottom, but then the wedding invitation arrived. Cream-colored paper with gold embossing announced the upcoming nuptials of Brian and Sarah.
“You don’t have to go,” my best friend Rachel insisted over coffee. “No one would blame you for staying home.”
“I know,” I said, tracing the elaborate calligraphy with my finger. “But I need to face this.”
That invitation changed something in me.
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Instead of crumpling under the weight of it all, I felt a spark of defiance. I started seeing a therapist, Dr. Martinez. It wasn’t easy to face my demons, but she helped me understand that my worth wasn’t tied to my hair or to Brian’s rejection.
“What would you do if you weren’t afraid?” she asked me one session.
The answer came surprisingly easily. “Travel. Dance. Live.”
“So what’s stopping you?”
“Nothing.” The realization hit me like a train. “Nothing at all.”
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So I joined a dance studio. I was self-conscious those first few lessons, but I soon settled in and started enjoying myself. I also booked that trip to Bali I’d always dreamed about. That’s where I met Anthony.
I was walking along the beach at sunset, feeling the warm sand between my toes, when I heard the click of a camera. I turned to find a man with kind eyes and an apologetic smile.
“I’m sorry,” he said, lowering his professional-grade camera. “The light was perfect, and you looked so peaceful. I can delete the photos if you’d like.”
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“No, I’d like to see them,” I surprised myself by saying. Something about his gentle manner put me at ease.
When he showed me the images on his camera’s display, I gasped. The woman in the photos was bald, yes, but she was also beautiful, serene, powerful. She looked like a warrior goddess emerging from the sea.
“Wow,” I breathed. “I can’t believe that’s me.”
“You have an amazing presence,” he said softly. “The camera loves you.”
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“I haven’t felt beautiful in a long time,” I admitted.
“But you’re gorgeous!” He exclaimed. Then he blushed. “I’m sorry, we don’t even know each other and here I am, babbling like a fool. Let me start over. I’m Anthony.” He extended his hand. “Would you like to get coffee and talk about photography?”
Coffee turned into dinner, dinner into days spent exploring the island together. Anthony saw me in a way no one else had before.
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“You never asked about my hair,” I said one evening as we walked along the shore.
“Because it’s not what makes you you,” he replied simply. “Your strength, your smile, your heart, those are what matter.”
I’d made enough progress in therapy to know he was right, but hearing him say it… that was the moment I truly started to feel confident about who I was again.
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Months later, I stood outside the wedding venue, smoothing down my red dress. Anthony squeezed my hand.
“Ready?” he asked, his eyes full of pride.
“Ready.”
We walked into the reception hall together, my bald head held high. I was transformed from the woman I used to be to an Alopecia warrior, facing my biggest battle yet. The room fell silent, conversations dropping away like stones into still water.
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Then, remarkably, people began to stand. The applause started slowly but built into a thunderous ovation.
Throughout the evening, guests kept approaching our table. “You’re so brave,” they’d say, or “You’re an inspiration.”
I caught glimpses of Sarah’s tight smile and Brian’s uncomfortable shifting, but they couldn’t touch me anymore.
“You okay?” Anthony whispered during a slow dance.
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I looked up at him, feeling the strength of his arms around me, the warmth of his love. “More than okay. I’m free.”
Now, as I plan my own beach wedding with Anthony, I sometimes think about the woman I used to be. She thought losing her hair meant losing everything, but really, it was just the beginning of finding herself.
“What are you thinking about?” Anthony asks me now, as we sit on our balcony watching the sunset.
He’s editing photos from his latest gallery show: a series featuring women with alopecia, inspired by our story.
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I touch my smooth scalp, something I do proudly these days. “Just thinking about how sometimes you have to lose everything to find what you’re really meant to have.”
“Getting cold feet?” he teases gently.
“Never,” I laugh. “You’re stuck with me now.”
He smiles and takes my hand. “Ready to be my bride?”
“I’ve never been more ready for anything in my life,” I reply, and this time, I know it’s true.
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I think about our upcoming ceremony, and how different it feels from my planning with Brian. This isn’t about creating a perfect day, it’s about celebrating our perfectly imperfect love story.
These days, I work as a model and speak at conferences about alopecia awareness, and Anthony’s photos of me have been featured in magazines promoting body positivity.
But more importantly, I’ve learned that true beauty isn’t about perfect hair or perfect relationships. It’s about being perfectly, authentically yourself.
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Former teen idol Leif Garrett’s life took a horrible downward spiral
To me, it feels like teenage heartthrob Leif Garrett does not get enough credit as an artist and performer. He deserved so much more!
Throughout his career, the former teen idol experienced extreme highs and lows, but the highs he sought through drug addiction, which he used as a crutch, resulted in him sinking his career…
Before you see him today, at 62, it might be good to hold your breath…
What a babe he was….. Leif Garrett started as a child actor, and in the 1970s, he set the hearts of young women to fluttering when he became a musician.
My mom told me that when she went to the grocery store with her parents, she could see Leif’s face on all of the teen magazine covers at the checkout lanes.
The American singer-actor, born in Hollywood, California, was 5 years old when he first appeared in the movie Bob & Carol & Ted & Alice in 1969, which became the sixth highest-grossing film of the year.
Following that role, the sleepy-eyed, flaxen-haired heartthrob featured in the film Walking Tall, along with its two sequels. In 1983 he joined a number of fellow teen heartthrobs, including Matt Dillon, C. Thomas Howell, Patrick Swayze and Tom Cruise, in Francis Ford Coppola’s The Outsiders.
Some might also recognize him from his performances in TV series, like Family, The Odd Couple (1974), Wonder Woman (1978) and CHiPs (1979).
In 1977, he released his first album Leif Garret, and fans went wild when he performed covers of popular songs like The Wanderer (Dion), Surfin’ USA (The Beach Boys) and Paul Anka’s Put Your Head on My Shoulder.
Garrett was on top of the world. The blond, shaggy-haired singer toured worldwide, and his fans (mostly young girls) went crazy as soon as they saw him.
”I was on a public appearance tour in Sydney, Australia, and they had to fly me in by helicopter and then I jumped into an armored car and drove into the theater by back door. I’ve tried using a lim there before, but the fans almost tipped it over. I guess it’s an adrenalin push for them. They just freak out. It’s very weird,” Garrett told New York Daily News in 1979.
But even though his music was close to topping the charts, he struggled with management that made him feel like a “fraud.” The crossover to adulthood was also a challenge for Garrett.
“I think I was a good performer from the get-go but I wish they had offered me singing lessons before ever making a record and doing the typical punching in a sentence here or there or words or whatever,” Garret said in an interview.
“There’s a particular track (I Was Looking for Someone to Love) that doesn’t even sound like me at all. I would even possibly say I wasn’t even on that track. And to me, that IS fraud. That’s like a Milli Vanilli situation, the difference being, of course, mine was blended many times with myself and somebody else.”
Garrett’s career started to go downhill in 1979 when, drunk and drugged, he crashed a car and sent it tumbling down a hillside in North Hollywood, leaving his then-close friend Ronald Winkler a paraplegic.
But that wasn’t enough for Garret, whose life continued its negative spiral.
In 1980, a time he describes in his book as “the apex of pinup fame,” Garret revelled in sex, drugs and rock and roll with the legendary frontman of Queen, Freddie Mercury, who was at the time recording the hugely successful album The Game, which featured the hits “Crazy Little Thing Called Love” and “Another One Bites the Dust.” Garrett said he became friends with the band, who showed him a real rock star life with girls and drugs.
In an interview with Fox for the release of his memoir, Idol Truth, Garrett said:“I don’t think I was a very mature 16-year-old. I became mature very quickly because I was always surrounded by adults who were drinking and doing coke. I was a child, but being treated as an adult… And all of this was coming out of my pocket.”
He continued: “You know, I probably have the greatest fan base that I could ever imagine for myself. They have stuck with me through thick and thin. And as you know, I’ve gotten myself in plenty of bad situations. There was a lot of bad decision-making. But at the same time, I didn’t have the parental guidance that I should have at that time.”
Garret’s tally of charges is extensive. He dropped out of rehab and had numerous run-ins with the police, including whilst trying to buy drugs from undercover cops and trying to hide heroin in his shoe.
Despite making very effort at clawing his way back to the top, Garrett ultimately returned to his old habits. Because of his laughable experiences with the law, Garrett was selected to provide commentary on the comedy show World’s Dumbest, which chronicles the “most amazingly stupid” criminals.
The show also used other celebrities known for personal misadventures, like Todd Bridges, Tonya Harding, Gary Busey and Danny Bonaduce.
Then Garrett landed a starring role on VH1’s Celebrity Rehab with Dr. Drew, a show he did not want to appear on. Garrett accused the show of having him relapse for drama, a claim emphatically denied by VH1.
In an interview the LA Times, Garrett said: “They asked to get some footage of me using, and I said, ‘I haven’t been using. They said, ‘We really have to get footage of you using.’ Anyway, I was easily talked into showing them.”
When a counselor with the production called him out, suggesting he was still using, Garrett walked off the show saying: “This is insanity and quite honestly I don’t appreciate it.”
Fortunately, Leif Garrett is sober today.
”I had a 90-day sentence in county jail. I was in court-ordered rehab before that, and then my mom visited and told me she had stage IV lung cancer. I said, ‘I’m leaving to take care of her—nobody lives with her.’ So dealing with that, I started using again. So it was like, ‘Cuff him, bring him in,’ and I did the 90 days, and that was it,” he says.
According to the former teen idol, he’s still very grateful for all his fans.
”I’ve kept every photo or letter that a young lady sent, telling me about being on their walls and kissing me good night before they went to bed,” Garrett told Closer. “It’s very surreal and a bit embarrassing, but how flattering! I can’t thank [my fans] enough, because I’m still able to do something I enjoy and get paid for it.”
We’re rallying behind Leif’s recovery and hope he can enjoy his life now!
We’d love you to share your thoughts on the former teen idol and his attempts at getting sober.
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