After my parents divorced when I was ten, Dad quickly remarried Sandra, and his attention seemed to shift entirely to her son, Tommy. He missed important moments in my life, like science fairs and soccer finals, always prioritizing Tommy’s needs over mine. When he skipped my high school graduation to take Tommy to the zoo, claiming Tommy needed cheering up, I’d had enough..
I decided to confront him at a graduation dinner I organized. As I stood to speak, I recounted how his absences had affected me, hoping to make him see the impact of his choices. His reaction surprised me; he acknowledged his mistakes and promised to make amends. The following weekend, he took me on a special trip to bond, showing a newfound commitment to our relationship. Finally, I felt hopeful about our future.
MY MIL DRESSED AS A WITCH FOR HALLOWEEN — AND NOW MY KID IS TR.AUMATlZE.D!
It sounds like such a tough situation! Halloween is supposed to be fun, but I can completely see how this went too far, especially for a young child. Here’s a possible approach that might help calm her fears and explain the situation:
First, try gently talking to your daughter and validating her feelings. Tell her it’s okay to feel scared and that even grown-ups can be spooked sometimes. Then, explain that Halloween is a time when people dress up to look silly or different from how they usually do – even adults! You could say, “Grandma was just pretending to be a witch, like when you dress up as a princess or a superhero.”
If she’s still worried, maybe go through some pictures together, like showing her photos of grandma without the costume. You could even do a fun little makeup session at home where you both take turns “transforming” each other, so she can see that makeup and costumes are just ways to play pretend.
Later, maybe you and your mother-in-law can arrange a calm, positive visit where she can be herself, maybe even in “happy” colors instead of the dark ones that might remind your daughter of the witch costume. Hopefully, it will help replace those scary memories with warmer ones, and grandma can be back in her good books soon!
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