My story is about how my ex-husband’s girlfriend realized a truth about him that I grew too comfortable with while married to him. With one important question, his new girlfriend taught me a valuable lesson about self-love after reaching out unexpectedly.
I’ve been divorced for five years now, and it’s been an interesting journey navigating life post-marriage. My ex-husband, Ben, 48, and I, 45, were together for 13 years and had two wonderful kids. Even after our split, we’ve managed to stay on good terms.
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We co-parent effectively despite our marriage having its ups and downs. Ben and I are best friends and have also maintained a friendship that surprises most people. Our divorce wasn’t messy; we simply wanted different things out of life.
Yesterday was our eldest’s 16th birthday, and we decided to celebrate with a family dinner. Ben has been seeing someone new, a woman named Lisa, for about four months. He told me about her as soon as their relationship got serious.
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Transparency was part of our agreement to keep things open and honest for the sake of our children. He asked if he could bring Lisa to the birthday dinner, and while I wasn’t thrilled as I would have preferred to meet her one-on-one first, I didn’t want to cause any drama or be intrusive. So, I agreed.
On that fateful day, I finally got to meet Lisa who was friendly, and eager to make a good impression, which was a relief. I preferred her to be a good person if she was going to be around my children.
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She’s got a kind smile and she immediately struck up a conversation with me about the kids’ school and activities. I could tell she was trying hard to fit in, which I appreciated.
As the evening went on, I noticed how attentive Lisa was to Ben. It was sweet but also a little unsettling because I never saw that side of him during our marriage. I chalked it up to new relationship energy and tried to focus on the kids and the celebration.
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Halfway through dinner, things got weird when my eldest handed me a birthday card from her father. This caught me off guard because my birthday was months ago. No one usually remembers it, and Ben has never been one to recall such occasions.
Don’t get me wrong, my children’s father is a great man. But he’s really terrible with things like anniversaries, birthdays, or any special occasions. During all the years we were together, Ben never got me a present or card.
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It was also my responsibility to handle events like the kids’ birthdays, Christmas, and more. I don’t know if I was wrong for this, but his forgetfulness didn’t bother me. I thanked my daughter, feeling touched by the gesture.
Lisa, sitting across from me, saw my surprise. I had assumed she’d made him get it, but then I noticed how she was giving me these funny looks. Unsure what they meant, I decided to mingle with other guests to avoid the awkwardness.
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But, Lisa somehow managed to get my attention. “Ben mentioned he’s not great with birthdays,” she said with a chuckle. “He forgot mine a few weeks ago. Is it intentional?”
I laughed, remembering all the missed anniversaries and forgotten special days. “I have no idea, Lisa, but 13 years of marriage and two kids wasn’t the benchmark because he never really got the hang of it,” I replied. “It’s just who he is.”
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Lisa seemed disappointed and tried to hide it, but I thought nothing of it and wandered off to talk to other guests. I decided to shift the conversation to something lighter and talked about family plans and the upcoming holidays. The rest of the evening went smoothly, and we all parted ways with smiles and hugs.
Later that night, as I was getting ready for bed, I received a text from an unknown number. It was my ex’s new girlfriend. “Hi, this is Lisa. I got your number from Ben. I hope it’s okay to text you. I wanted to ask you something.”
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Curious, I replied, “Sure, what’s up?”
Her response came quickly and when I read it, I was STUNNED. She hadn’t gotten over our brief conversation earlier and was asking if Ben’s forgetfulness of special occasions was something that could be fixed. “I know this might seem odd because we touched on it earlier, but I need to know…”
“…Does Ben ever improve when it comes to birthdays and anniversaries? I don’t want to make a big deal out of it if it’s something that won’t change.” I stared at my phone, feeling a mix of emotions. Part of me wanted to warn her, to tell her not to ever expect much.
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But another part of me debated whether to give Ben a heads-up as it seemed like this was a serious issue for his new girlfriend and that she expected more attention to such things. Yet, a part of me resented having to teach him to be better about something he never tried with me.
I also felt like it wasn’t my place to interfere. After a moment, I typed back, “Honestly, he’s my ex for a reason. I can’t say if he’ll change or not, and I’m not going to have the answers you need.” I continued, “It’s something you’ll have to figure out together. Lovely meeting you, though.”
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Months went by without much thought about that night. Then, one evening, Ben called me out of the blue. “Lisa and I broke up,” he said, sounding frustrated.
“What happened?” I asked, genuinely curious.
“She kept making a big deal out of nothing, busy complaining about birthdays and anniversaries. I told her it’s not something I care about, and she just wouldn’t let it go,” he said, sounding furious.
“It turned into this huge argument when I forgot our anniversary, and she left,” he explained, his voice tinged with annoyance.
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I sighed, feeling a twinge of guilt as I wondered if I could’ve helped them if I had been more supportive of Lisa when she texted me. “Ben, did she tell you it was important to her?” I asked, feeling like my responses to Lisa played a part in their breakup.
He was silent for a moment. “She told me on many occasions that such things were important to her.”
“But WHO CARES! You never made it a big deal,” he said defensively.
Tired of coddling him, I said, “Well, sir, and that’s why we divorced.”
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“That’s mean, Kim,” my ex replied, sounding sad.
“Look, I’m sorry, but I stopped trying because I knew it wouldn’t matter to you,” I replied calmly. “But that doesn’t mean it wasn’t important to me. Or to her. You have to meet people halfway.”
Ben grumbled something under his breath, and I could tell he wasn’t ready to accept that truth. We ended the call on a neutral note, and I sat there, thinking about Lisa. She deserved someone who would appreciate her efforts and reciprocate her feelings.
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A few days later, I bumped into Lisa at the grocery store. She looked tired but managed a smile when she saw me. “Hi, how are you?” she asked politely.
“I’m good, thanks. How about you?” I replied, genuinely concerned.
“I’ve been better,” she admitted. “Ben and I broke up.”
“I heard,” I said softly. “I’m sorry it didn’t work out.”
She sighed. “I couldn’t deal with feeling unimportant. I tried to explain it to him, but he didn’t seem to care.”
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I nodded, understanding her frustration all too well. “It’s hard when someone doesn’t value what you do. You deserve someone who will.”
Lisa smiled sadly. “Thanks. I appreciate that. I guess I hoped he could change.”
“Change is hard for some people,” I said gently. “But don’t lose hope. You’ll find someone who values you.”
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We parted ways, and I felt a strange sense of closure. Lisa’s struggle mirrored my past frustrations, but it also highlighted how much I had grown since my marriage ended. I had learned to accept Ben’s flaws, but I also realized that I deserved more than what he was willing to give.
That evening, I sat down with my children and talked about their dad. I wanted them to understand that while he had his shortcomings, he loved them deeply. We laughed about his forgetfulness and shared stories of the good times we had as a family.
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As I reflected on everything, I felt a deep sense of peace. I had moved on from the hurt and disappointment and was ready to embrace whatever the future held. I hoped Lisa would find the happiness she deserved, and I knew that I had done the right thing by not getting too involved in their relationship.
In the end, it wasn’t about birthdays or anniversaries. It was about finding someone who truly valued and appreciated you for who you are. I did not doubt that Lisa would find that person someday, and I knew I was finally content with my own life.
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As I looked at my children, I felt grateful for the love and joy they brought into my life. We had our good and bad moments, but we were a family, and that was what mattered most. And as for Ben, I hoped he would eventually learn to value the important things in life.
For now, I was happy. I had my kids, friends, and a sense of peace I hadn’t felt in a long time. And that was more than enough.
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Marry a woman who doesn’t know the uses of this marble
Some things in life are universally known, while others are understood only by a select few. Take these small marbles, for example—while they might seem ordinary at first glance, they hold a meaning that only men truly understand. If a woman has no idea what these are used for, it’s a subtle but significant sign—one that hints at a life free from certain distractions, complexities, or even habits associated with these objects.
What Are These Mysterious Marbles?
The small, glossy spheres in the image might look like decorative beads or even children’s toys, but they have a very specific use that is common among men. These are typically used in activities such as gaming, gambling, or certain recreational pursuits that men are more familiar with.
Some of these marbles, especially the red ones, are used in betting games or even games of chance, where skill and luck collide. The clear or blue versions are sometimes used in collectibles, strategy-based games, or even small-scale competitions that men engage in for fun or challenge.
For many men, these marbles bring back memories of childhood, competitive play, or even certain pastimes that require strategy, patience, or a bit of risk-taking.
Why Marry a Woman Who Doesn’t Know Their Use?
Now, what does it mean if a woman has no clue what these marbles are used for? It could mean a few interesting things about her character, lifestyle, and values—things that could make her an ideal life partner.
1. She Values Simplicity Over Distraction
A woman who has never encountered these marbles may have lived a life focused on things that matter—relationships, career, family, and personal growth—rather than indulging in games or gambling-related activities. This kind of simplicity often translates to a drama-free and well-balanced approach to life.
2. She’s Not Familiar with Gambling Culture
Let’s face it—many of these marbles are associated with games of luck, gambling, or even underground betting circles. If she doesn’t recognize them, she’s probably never been involved in, nor fascinated by, such habits. That’s a good sign for a future partner, as it means she likely has a responsible and financially wise mindset, avoiding unnecessary risks or reckless spending.
3. She’s Focused on Building a Meaningful Life
Some hobbies and games, while entertaining, can also be distractions from real-life goals and responsibilities. If she doesn’t know what these marbles are, it could indicate that she’s been focused on self-improvement, education, career-building, or nurturing relationships rather than engaging in activities that don’t provide long-term value.
4. She’s More Interested in Deep, Meaningful Connections
Some men use games like these as a way to escape reality, pass the time, or even socialize in competitive environments. A woman unfamiliar with these marbles likely prefers spending time on meaningful conversations, experiences, and connections rather than on fleeting pastimes.
The Deeper Meaning – What It Says About Her Personality
While it may seem like a small detail, the fact that she doesn’t know about these marbles speaks volumes about her approach to life.
1. She’s Responsible and Future-Oriented
A woman unaware of these small game pieces probably hasn’t been exposed to unnecessary distractions. Instead, she might have spent her time learning, growing, and planning for a stable future. This is exactly the kind of mindset that makes a great partner—one who values commitment, responsibility, and success.
2. She Appreciates Stability Over Risk
Since these marbles are often linked to gambling or strategic games that involve risk, not knowing about them means she probably prefers a secure, well-planned life. She’s likely the kind of person who appreciates financial responsibility, steady growth, and long-term planning rather than living impulsively.
3. She Brings Peace, Not Chaos
Let’s be honest—relationships thrive on stability and emotional balance. A woman unfamiliar with gambling or betting culture is less likely to introduce unnecessary tension or unpredictability into your life. Instead, she prioritizes peace, security, and a stress-free environment—a dream for anyone looking for a happy, long-lasting relationship.
What This Means for a Long-Term Relationship
When choosing a life partner, it’s important to look beyond superficial traits and focus on character, values, and lifestyle choices. A woman who doesn’t recognize these marbles likely has a healthy perspective on life, relationships, and responsibilities.
1. She’s Not Easily Influenced by Trends
People who constantly chase trends or indulge in distractions often find themselves trapped in temporary excitement rather than long-term stability. A woman unaware of these marbles likely has a strong sense of self and doesn’t get easily swayed by fleeting habits.
2. She’s the Type to Build a Home, Not a Casino
If you’re looking for a partner who values family, security, and shared goals, she’s the one. She won’t encourage reckless financial decisions, unnecessary risks, or time-wasting habits. Instead, she’s more likely to focus on a balanced and fulfilling life.
3. She’s Committed to Growth and Real Experiences
Rather than spending time in environments that revolve around chance or competition, she’s more invested in building real experiences, personal growth, and meaningful connections. This makes her a fantastic partner for anyone looking for a life filled with purpose, love, and long-term happiness.
Final Thoughts – A Partner Who Brings Stability and Joy
At the end of the day, the idea of marrying a woman who doesn’t know the use of these marbles goes beyond just the marbles themselves. It’s about finding someone who values stability over risk, real relationships over distractions, and a meaningful future over temporary thrills.
So if you find a woman who looks at these marbles and has no idea what they’re for, consider yourself lucky. You’ve found someone who is genuine, focused, and ready to build a stable, loving life together. And that’s a rare and beautiful thing.
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