A lot of big, tragic and important things have happened to this wonderful country of ours since April 2014. None of which I have covered. I was too busy writing about hungover parenting, ancient philosophy and my dog Colin.
Out of the 536 columns I have written, 27 were about that guy. Far too few. He is such a good boy, he deserves an article a week.
Today is the end of an era for me, and whenever these final events pop up in our lives, we can’t help but think about the ultimate end.
Everything we do, we will one day do for the last time. That’s why you have to enjoy things while they are around. It’s not just big events like leaving a job, house or loved one either. Whatever moment you happen to be in now, you will never get it back, and you don’t know how many more you have.
Everything we do in life, from eating pizza to spending time with the people we love, to driving, writing, drinking or breathing, we will one day experience for the final time. It might happen tomorrow. This can be either a depressing or an inspiring thought, depending on how you look at it.
A few years back in this column, I interviewed professor of philosophy William B Irvine, of Wright State University, Ohio, on this very topic. He put it this way on a Zoom call: “Recognition of the impermanence of everything in life can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. The only way we can be truly alive is if we make it our business periodically to entertain thoughts of the end.”
Today’s column is very meaningful to me because it is my last. Like the last night with a lover before she goes overseas. And just like a lover, there have been some half-arsed efforts put in from me over the years. Last week, for example, I spent 750 words moaning about how bad my cricket team is. But the truth is that any of my columns could have been the final. If I had reminded myself every week for the past 10 years that the end is inevitable, I may have been more grateful for having a column and appreciated writing them all as much as I am this one.
While everything we do could have more meaning with a focus on finitude, some things are inherently more worthwhile than others. There is no doubt my column “The pros and cons of wearing Speedos” from November 2022 was less meaningful than most things in this world. That was a waste of everyone’s time. So, if we only have so much time, how do we pick the best things to do?
Well, Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks – Time Management For Mortals, suggested this to me in a 2022 column: “Ask yourself, does this choice enlarge me? You usually know on some unspoken level if it does. That’s a good way to distinguish between options.”
With that in mind, I don’t feel great about my 2018 article on “New Zealand’s best hole”. That didn’t enlarge anyone.
There will be people reading this column right now who have loved my writing in the Herald and are sad to see it end. Others will have hated it and are glad to see me go. Many won’t have any opinion at all. But for those in the first camp, I have good news. I have a book coming out on May 28 called A Life Less Punishing – 13 Ways To Love The Life You Got (Allen and Unwin Book Publishers). It’s a deep dive into the history, philosophy and science of not wasting our time lost in anger, loneliness, humiliation, stress, fear, boredom and all the other ways we find to not enjoy perfectly good lives. It’s available for pre-order right now (google it if you’re interested).
A Life Less Punishing took me two years to write and is equivalent in words to 100 of these columns. Which would be a complete nightmare for those in the hate camp, but as I say, great news for those who want more.
Anyway, thanks to the Herald for having me, thanks to the lovely people who make an effort to say nice things to me about my column nearly every day and thanks to the universe for every single second we get.
Bless!
He Was the Rifleman, Now Chuck Connors’ Secrets Come to Light
Chuck Connors, a name linked with vintage Western television, rose to fame as a result of his memorable performance as “The Rifleman’s” Lucas McCain. The transformation of Connors from athlete to actor is amazing and motivating. His initial success came in the sports industry. He was born in 1921. His brief but unforgettable MLB career began in 1940 when the Brooklyn Dodgers recognized his baseball potential.
But it didn’t take him long to feel the need to act. Connors entered the movie business in the early 1950s, and his breakout performance came in the 1952 picture “Pat and Mike.” However, his role as McCain in “The Rifleman,” which debuted in 1958, is what really solidified his reputation on television. In the role of McCain, Connors embodied the physicality and emotional depth of a dedicated rancher from New Mexico. He gave the role his all, whether it was performing stunts or learning how to ride a horse. The authentic relationship he had with his on-screen son, Johnny Crawford, was one of the show’s highlights.
Beneath his heroic façade on television, Connors had a difficult personal life. His on-screen portrayal as the perfect parent figure stood in stark contrast to his real-life troubles. The guy behind the character became more complex as a result of his multiple marriages and extramarital encounters. Connors’ clean TV appearance was further undermined by the obvious age difference in his personal connections.
Connors was notable in Hollywood for his political views as well. He openly backed politicians like Ronald Reagan and Richard Nixon, in contrast to many of his liberal Hollywood contemporaries. Because of this, he stood out both on and off screen.
It was difficult for Connors to get rid of Lucas McCain’s shadow when “The Rifleman” concluded. He tried his hand at a number of TV and movie roles, but none of them was as memorable as McCain. He brought the cherished character back for a short while in a 1991 TV film around the tail end of his career. Regretfully, he lost his fight with lung cancer and died at the age of 71 in 1992.
Chuck Connors had a great career and personal life, but he also left a lasting legacy in entertainment. He has a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame in recognition of his contributions to vintage westerns and the Golden Age of Television. Despite his share of flaws, Connors’ genuine decency and enduring influence on screen guarantee his position in television history.
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