I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.
I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).
I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).
Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.
My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.
It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.
She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….
I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.
Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.
Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.
She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.
I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.
Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.
Top 10 Most Dangerous Beaches in the World
Hawaii’s Kilauea Hawaii is well-known for its magnificent beaches, huge waves, and ideal weather for tanning, but it’s not without its risks. Hawaii is home to many volcanoes, the most active of which is Mt. Kilauea.
Kilauea beach has black sand due to volcanic ash, and although it’s a great spot to visit, there’s always a chance of the volcano erupting.
Mexico’s Playa Zipolite #2
Even though the moniker implies that this is the “beach of the dead,” a lot of people still come here each year, despite this warning.
3 Australia’s Fraser Island
Unfortunately, because of the hazardous jellyfish and sharks that inhabit the waters, Fraser Island is a paradise that is off-limits to humans. The island is home to some of the deadliest spiders in the world as well as a few huge crocodiles, so the beach is equally perilous.
4 South Africa’s Gansbaai
5 County of Volusia, Florida
6 India’s Chowpatty Beach
7 Bikini Atoll, US Islands of MarshallThe waters are teeming with sharks, and from 1946 until 1958, the area served as a nuclear weapons test site.On the islands, some 20 nuclear bombs were detonated, causing radioactive fallout. After all, the location has been deemed safe by the authorities.
Russia’s Schitovaya Bukhta 8Although Schitovaya Bukhta is renowned as one of the best places in the world for surfing, it is also home to a number of military installations.
Antarctica’s 9 Heard Island
10 Andaman Islands’ North Sentinel Island
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