It’s uplifting to witness women supporting each other, whether it’s friends offering help or strangers extending support to those they’ve never met. In this story, a woman quietly left a letter for her ex-boyfriend’s future girlfriend, offering a heads-up about what to anticipate and sharing lessons from her own experience. The new girlfriend shared this moving act of solidarity on Reddit, where she received an outpouring of encouragement and advice from the online community.
She wrote:
“My boyfriend Steve (30m) and I (28f) have been together for 2 years and have been living together for 8 months. I was cleaning our apartment when I found a note in the back of a cabinet that read:
‘Dear Steve’s Future Girlfriend,
I know it’s you reading this because he’d never clean back here. I’m putting this here because I’m leaving him soon and want to warn you about him:
1-He will not clean;
2-He will not listen;
3-He will make everything feel like it’s your fault;
It’s not your fault, he’s just an incompetent man. I’m leaving him, I suggest you do the same.
Best wishes, Natalia'”
She added:
“I read the note and brought it to show to him and hear his response. He immediately ripped it up and said not to listen to it, that she was crazy and untrustworthy. I told him that the fact that he hasn’t found the note in the 5 years since they broke up is a red flag to me because it does mean he’s never cleaned back there and that he has been cleaning less and less since I moved in.
He told me this is just his ex continuing to manipulate and ruin his life, and I was letting it work. We continued to argue along the same lines, and I eventually left to spend the night at a friend’s place.
Steve has been a great boyfriend so far. He gets along with my family. He has given me gifts and flowers and always tells me how much he loves me. He’s not wrong that the cleaning hasn’t really been brought up before, but the note made me realize it had been less and less and that we needed to have a full conversation about this.”
She went on explaining:
“He texted me afterwards saying he’s sorry that I felt like I had to leave, but that it’s a wrong move for me to take a note over our 2-year relationship and to leave him and our pets alone. I don’t know what to do or what to believe right now. I’m contemplating trying to find and reach out to Natalia.
Steve thinks I should come back home and let it go, that his past should not affect our future. He makes it sound like his ex was manipulative and petty throughout their relationship, but I don’t know what to trust.
When we moved in together 8 months ago, the cleaning was 50/50. Since then, he’s been doing things less and less. I have to remind him to do things like to bring his plates to the sink or take out the trash, and I didn’t have to before. The dishes will pile up unless I do them, to the point he’s had leftover food mold on the plates.”
She continued:
“I’m not a confrontational person, so I was just asking him to fix it when it came up. The note made me reflect on it more and try to have an actual full conversation, and I will say I didn’t feel listened to when I talked to him about it.
I tried to use the note to start a conversation about cleaning, and he got so stuck on the fact that I was listening to his ex instead of him, that he wouldn’t listen to what I think are valid concerns. He thinks I’m letting the note have “confirmation bias” so no matter what he says I’ll think he’s in the wrong.
Also, I didn’t leave him permanently, this all happened yesterday and I only spent one night at a friend’s because I didn’t feel like our conversation was going anywhere last night, and he wouldn’t let me sleep until I let it go. I’m going back today and wanted to get advice and feedback before I do.”
Other Redditors chimed in, sharing their own insights and offering advice to her.
- I’m so glad for you. It wasn’t two wasted years since they taught you a valuable lesson. I’m especially grateful for Natalia! Please tell her we love her for her kind solidarity and witty ways. Absolutely, leave a note — but better yet, leave two. One in the same place (he’ll look there; manipulative narcissists aren’t that dumb), and another in an even less likely spot. Sending you my best. You got this, girl! © occasionalpart / Reddit
- Well, he’s not cleaning, he’s not listening to you, and he’s making it out to be your fault “for trusting a note over him.” So, it seems the ex’s assessment might be accurate. It doesn’t look like he’s open to discussing his poor housekeeping, and personally, I don’t think you’ll be able to address it now without the note coming up. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide whether this is something you can tolerate. It seems he hasn’t learned anything from his last relationship. © VonBoo / Reddit
- You’ve been living together for less than a year, and you’re already having to play mommy, reminding him of basic chores and daily tasks! If Natalia were truly such a manipulative, crazy person, she would have made much harsher and more dramatic accusations than these. © Arya_kidding_me / Reddit
- It’s almost ironic how easy it would have been for him to shut this entire thing down with the simplest of responses: “Hmm, you’re right, I’ll make sure to clean more.” That would have immediately countered points 2 and 3. But he’d rather be right, and he’d rather play the aggrieved party. You didn’t do anything wrong by trying to have a conversation off the back of that note. His reaction should tell you everything. © Mobius_Stripping / Reddit
- I’d be willing to bet money that the note is right. He sounds like the kind of man who will stop doing anything the second he decides a woman is fully trapped. The slow tapering off you’re witnessing is him testing the waters. He needs to figure out whether he just needs to waste enough of your time to get to that stage, or whether you need a ring or a baby to feel trapped. © Extension_Drummer_85 / Reddit
- “Don’t expect to change a man unless he’s in diapers.” This behavior will continue on, he’s gotten away with it before up to a certain point. He wants someone to pick up after him like his mommy.
Any time a guy says, “My ex is/was crazy,” is a MASSIVE red flag right there. It’s something guys have been saying since the dawn of time to belittle their former partners. He’ll say the same thing about you to his next girlfriend. You have to ask yourself, “Was she crazy, or did he drive her crazy with his behavior and laziness?” I’d leave your own note when you do finally dump him. And reach out to his ex, see what she has to say. © Equal-Brilliant2640 / Reddit
When trust is broken between couples, it often leads to a surge of emotional and psychological turmoil, including feelings of uncertainty and profound confusion. In a different scenario, a woman shared a fascinating story of her own sleuthing skills. She discovered her husband was cheating simply by paying close attention to his breakfast order.
“Not Doing a Very Good Job of Being a Mother,” Angelina Jolie Appeared With Her Son Pax, Sparking Public Outrage
Angelina Jolie attended the event, as always, accompanied by one of her children. This time, the actress was joined by Pax, who had been involved in a serious accident over the summer. His appearance sparked a negative reaction from the public.
49-year-old Angelina Jolie and her 20-year-old son Pax Jolie-Pitt turned heads on the red carpet. Angelina embodied old Hollywood glamour in a stunning black gown that draped elegantly over her figure.
The sleeveless design added sophistication, and she accessorized it with long black gloves that extended over her elbows. Her blonde hair was styled straight with a middle part, perfectly framing her face. Her minimal yet radiant makeup highlighted her flawless complexion.
Pax, still recovering from his accident, walked confidently beside his mother. He wore a sleek black suit, matching trousers, and patent leather dress shoes. His look was completed with a crisp white dress shirt, a black tie, and dark sunglasses. Despite the visible scars on his forehead and an arm cast hidden under his jacket, Pax exuded confidence.
Pax Jolie-Pitt met with an e-bike accident and is recovering from the traumatic incident that occurred when he collided with a car in Los Angeles. The accident happened during rush hour on July 29, leaving witnesses fearing the worst. Pax lost consciousness at the scene. Paramedics revived him, and he was quickly taken to the hospital, where Angelina stayed by his side. Pax had been riding a Talaria Sting R MX4 electric bike, a popular model priced around $3,000.
Pax was hospitalized following an accident that occurred around 5 p.m. on Monday, July 29, in an area of Los Feliz Boulevard. A week later, a source revealed that Pax was “still recovering” after being discharged from an ICU in Los Angeles. “He’s uncomfortable and will require additional treatments. Still, he was very fortunate,” the insider shared. “It could have been much worse, especially since he wasn’t wearing a helmet.”
The source also mentioned that Jolie was “shocked and concerned” when she received the call about the accident, adding that her other children were “doing their best to support Pax.”
Despite the harrowing experience, Pax was in good spirits at the premiere. The bond between him and Angelina was evident as they posed for photos. However, many fans expressed their concern and wondered if it was a good idea for Pax to be on the red carpet while still recovering from the accident. “If he was so seriously injured and is still rehabbing, why did she take him to an event in Toronto?”, commented one. “Why is she always dragging her kids to premieres??…why never a date?” wondered another.
One commenter wrote, “A totally spoiled Pax, and I’m sure his siblings are exactly the same. Raising children without rules and guidelines will nearly always result in youngsters thinking they can do just as they like.” Another added, “Not doing a very good job of being a mother.”
Meanwhile, Brad Pitt took his relationship with his new girlfriend, Ines de Ramon, to the next level: they made their debut as a couple at the Cannes Film Festival.
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