Mariska Hargitay’s journey to motherhood is truly inspiring. Known for her iconic role on “Law & Order: SVU,” her real-life story revolves around love, resilience, and the joy of raising three children. The actress’s path to building a family is filled with unexpected blessings and deep gratitude.
Mariska Hargitay’s journey into motherhood began in her early 40s when she gave birth to her first child. Despite the challenges of being a first-time mother later in life, she wholeheartedly and joyfully embraced motherhood.
Her family grew when she and her husband, actor Peter Hermann, welcomed two more children within a year. Each child brought unique blessings into their lives, and Mariska cherishes the unexpected path that led her to become a mother of three.
Long before becoming a mother, Mariska always envisioned having her own family. From a young age, she knew motherhood was part of her life plans, a desire deeply rooted in her own upbringing.
A Childhood of Glitz and Heartbreak: The Early Life of Mariska Hargitay
Mariska is an actress, who added producing and directing to her list of talents. She was born to the glamorous actress Jayne Mansfield and the former Mr. Universe Mickey Hargitay on January 23, 1964.
Being born into Hollywood royalty, Mariska’s early life was surrounded by fame and glitz. This set a unique backdrop for her childhood. However, her early years were also marked by tragedy.
When Mariska was just three years old, her mother died in a car accident on June 29, 1967. This loss left a lasting scar on the actress, both physically and emotionally.
The actress expressed, “I clearly was in that frozen place for a lot of my childhood—of trying to survive, actually trying to survive. My life has been a process of unpeeling the layers and trust and trusting again.”
Despite this tragic beginning, Mariska’s parents’ legacy played a significant role in shaping her character. Her father, Mickey, raised her with discipline and love, teaching her the importance of hard work and resilience.
He ensured she had a normal upbringing. Mariska joined the swim team, ran cross-country, played volleyball, and by 1982, she was crowned Miss Beverly Hills. Despite her accomplishments, she was always aware of the darker side of life.
The actress later explained that she learned about crisis early and realized that life offers no guarantees, but we must keep moving forward and transform our experiences.
She considers this ability to be her superpower and sees it as a gift from experiencing trauma early in life. Despite these challenges, Mariska went on to live a full and fulfilling life.
Embracing Motherhood: Mariska’s Journey from Daughter to Mom
For Mariska, 2004 marked the beginning of a new phase in her life. That year, she married Peter, and on June 28, 2006, the actress welcomed her first child, August Miklos Friedrich Hermann, at 42.
Starting this journey into motherhood was easy for Mariska as she knew from a young age that she was meant for it. Despite losing her mother, she never lacked a maternal figure in her life. The actress was raised by her father’s third wife, Ellen Siano Hargitay, who never made her feel like an outsider.
Mariska reminisced, “I called her Mom. She really claimed us. She never had biological kids of her own, and to this day we are her kids. So we were blessed that she really embraced us and loved us so quickly. And I was very fortunate to have a maternal figure in my life after such a horrific accident.”
Additionally, while Ellen’s motherly act prepared Mariska for being a mom, it also stirred in her the desire to have children by other means. The actress had grown up realizing that being a mother did not have to be biological.
A Dream Fulfilled: The Adoption of Amaya Josephine
After a few years of becoming parents, Mariska and Peter, who came from big families, decided it was time to expand theirs. They were also not the only ones clamoring for more kids around the house. Their son August also wanted siblings.
However, the actress was over 40, and at her age at the time, pregnancies were never easy. Knowing she and her husband had so much love to give, Mariska was hopeful. She said, “I was really letting the chips fall as they might, because I do think so much is up to God.”
Mariska didn’t know how she was going to have more children, but she knew it was something that would happen. The actress remarked, “I always said, ‘I don’t know how this is going to end up. I don’t know if I’m going to get pregnant and have twins.’”
Despite having no clue, there was something she was sure of, and that was adoption. She recalled not knowing if someone would leave a baby on her doorstep. Nevertheless, she said, “But I really did think that down the line, Peter and I would adopt a child. That was always part of the plan.”
In early April 2011, Mariska and Peter’s plan came to fruition as they welcomed their second child, Amaya Josephine Hermann. Their daughter had been born in the United States about a week before her adoption.
As soon as the couple decided to adopt, they did not limit themselves as they considered international and domestic adoption. Mariska revealed they had talked about the idea of mixed-race adoptions, and were excited to become a multi-racial family.
The actress’s excitement began even before Amaya joined the family. Mariska had revealed, “I’m deliriously happy. From the minute she was born, she was just surprisingly alert and so full of love.”
The second time Mother was not alone in her excitement. August, who was less than five at the time, was also happy to have a baby sister. His Mom disclosed, “He is over the moon. He calls her his baby because he says the whole thing was his idea. He always talks about how he’s going to protect her. He’s going to be a great big brother.”
A Brother’s Dream: The Joyous Arrival of Andrew Nicolas
August, who prided himself as a big brother, was very hands-on in his sister’s life. He reportedly even participated in picking out her name. However, seeing as he thought it was his idea for her to join the family, he wanted yet another sibling.
Six months after Amaya came home as a newborn, August’s wish was fulfilled as he welcomed his baby brother, Andrew Nicolas Hermann, in October 2011. This time, Andrew was not a newborn, as he had been born in the summer of that year.
Mariska noted, “August thinks this was all his idea! He said, ‘I want a baby sister,’ and Amaya came. Then he said, ‘I want a baby brother,’ and Andrew came. August is feeling pretty good and pretty powerful!”
While August Miklos Friedrich Hermann felt powerful, Mariska was feeling a range of positive emotions. She said, “We adopted Amaya, and Andrew, I always describe it as this angel that fell out of the sky, because he was a little unexpected. [sic]”
Andrew Nicolas, Peter Hermann, and Mariska Hargitay at the ceremony honoring Mariska Hargitay with a Star on The Hollywood Walk of Fame on November 8, 2013, in Hollywood. | Source: Getty Images
The adoption of Andrew was not something Peter and Mariska had planned for at the time it happened. The couple had initially planned to adopt another baby a year or more after Amaya joined their household.
However, things happened differently. The actress revealed that their lawyer suddenly called them to inform them about Andrew. Their lawyer noted that it was an amazing opportunity, and the couple, in that moment, had never been more sure about having him in their lives.
The swiftness and timing of Andrew joining their family makes the actress believe her son “fell out of the sky.” Nevertheless, Mariska knows that it’s not an easy journey.
She once remarked, “I’m not gonna lie, there were wrenching moments. I say to everybody, ‘Adoption is not for the faint of heart.’” But, on some days, the actress feels like she’s living in a dream world. She said, “I just sit and pinch myself.”
Mariska Hargitay with Amaya, Andrew, and August at The Children’s Museum Of The East End 5th Annual Family Fair on July 20, 2013, in Bridgehampton, New York. | Source: Getty Images
Family and Fulfillment: Mariska Hargitay on Life as a Mother of Three
At 47, Mariska, who initially didn’t think it was possible to love more than one kid, had become a mom of three. She said, “You know you have one kid, and then you think, oh my gosh, I’ll never love another kid, and then the second one comes, and you can’t believe that you love them, and then the third one fell out of sky.”
Becoming a mother did not only teach Mariska about her capacity to love, it did more. She noted, “Becoming a parent erased many of my negative childhood feelings and filled them in with something new,” some of which include trying out new cultures when it comes to their cuisines.
The actress is not the only one to have spoken to the media about their family of five. Peter Hermann’s love for his family is always evident even though gets private about their kids. However, he expressed his thoughts on the unconventional manner in which their family grew.
The actor divulged, “It’s funny, I always get so private about our kids, but I think that the easiest way or the easiest answer is we just wanted a bigger family and we feel incredibly blessed.”
In 2018, Mariska also opened up about her life with the kids as she graced the cover of People’s magazine. She said, “The thing that’s made me a better parent is my kids. Because they taught me to really listen. My husband is my North Star, and my kids are my teachers.”
Not only did they make her a better parent, they also gave her something perfect in life. The actress revealed, “Our family is so perfect, or at least perfect for me. Together we’re just this whole, happy, joyful, chaotic, crazy unit. I’ve never known anything that was more right.”
Despite having a crazy and chaotic unit, Mariska and Peter work together to get the results they desire. Even though they have different parenting styles, the couple complement each other, with the actress revealing that her husband knows everything she doesn’t know.
Shortly before turning 60 in 2024, Mariska reflected on her life’s journey, career, motherhood, and more. The actress had countless reasons to be thankful.
Peter Hermann and Mariska Hargitay with their children, August, Andrew, and Amaya at the 2023 Stuttering Association For The Young (SAY) Benefit Gala on May 22, 2023, in New York City. | Source: Getty Images
One of the things Mariska was thankful for was the timing when she started her family. She said, “I’m so grateful that I’m an older mom. Grateful that I became successful older. I don’t know if I could have handled it when I was younger.”
The actress then compared what she was like in her younger days. She remembered that in her younger years, she struggled to be present, but as she got older, she learned to accept and appreciate life more deeply.
She noted, “And now I’m going to savor this moment. I want to share my lessons and where there is pain that I can fix that really inspires me to lighten the load.”
Mariska’s journey shows her strength and love. Starting her family in her early 40s, she faced the challenges and joys of raising three children with Peter. Their story is full of unexpected blessings and deep gratitude. As she cherishes her family, Mariska inspires us to embrace life’s surprises and the power of love at any age.
My 18th Birthday Surprise for My Stepmom Left Her Speechless
My 18th birthday was a day I will always remember, not just because it marked my official move into adulthood, but also because it was the day I planned to reveal a surprise for my stepmom — one that I hoped would change her life in a way she never expected.
Have you ever felt like life is one long, unscripted play, where every moment could either break you or make you stronger? My life has been a bit like that.
Navigating through the tough times of loss and new beginnings, I found myself faced with a decision that could either be a heartwarming moment or a big surprise gone wrong.
My name is Sarah, and this is the story of how my entry into adulthood became unforgettable for an unexpected reason.
When my mom passed away when I was just 11, life felt like a never-ending storm. My dad, lost in his own sadness, found hope in a new woman and eventually remarried.
That’s how my stepmom, Olivia, came into my life. She became much more than just a new person in the house; she was a great source of support and love when I needed it.
At first, I wasn’t ready for her. I was too angry and wrapped up in my grief to see her for who she was. I remember the day she moved in — I stayed locked in my room, listening to her unpack, refusing to acknowledge that she was now part of our lives.
I thought, how could my dad move on so quickly? How could he bring someone new into our home?
But Olivia never forced her way in. She gave me space and waited patiently until I was ready to talk. One night, I had a nightmare about my mom. I woke up crying, drenched in sweat. Olivia heard me from the hallway and quietly opened my door.
“Sarah, sweetie, it’s okay. You’re safe,” she whispered, sitting beside me and rubbing my back gently. I didn’t push her away. For the first time, I let her comfort me, and as she held me, I felt a small warmth amid the grief.
Just like that, Olivia and I became close. She never tried to replace my mom but filled our home with a light I thought we had lost forever. “I’m here for you, always,” she’d tell me, her words soothing my aching heart.
But life had another surprise waiting. When we lost my dad, the silence in our home was heavy. I remember sitting in the dim living room, filled with fear and uncertainty.
“I can’t imagine how hard this is for you,” Olivia said softly. “But I want you to know I’m here for you. We’re family, no matter what.”
Her words were a lifeline in my sadness. “But everyone’s saying you’ll leave… go back to your family,” I said, struggling to hold back tears. “Will I…will I go to an orphanage?”
It wasn’t just my fear of losing her. I had heard people whispering at the funeral, speculating about how Olivia would leave now that my dad was gone. The thought terrified me. I didn’t want to be alone again.
“No, sweetie. You’re not going anywhere, and neither am I. Look at me,” she said, holding my hand in the dark. She cupped my face and kissed my forehead. “We’ll get through this together.”
For a moment, the heaviness in my chest lifted. Olivia had always been my steady anchor. She stayed by my side through every family gathering where people looked at us with pity, and through every sleepless night when grief threatened to take over. Slowly, I began to trust that she meant it when she said she wasn’t going anywhere.
And she was right. Despite the whispers from others, she stayed, showing me that the bonds of family we choose can be just as strong as those we’re born into.
On the morning of my 18th birthday, the air was filled with excitement, not just for the usual celebrations but for a surprise I had been planning for years.
Olivia greeted me with her warm smile, one that had often brightened my mood since the day she entered our lives.
“Happy birthday, sweetheart,” she said, handing me a small, beautifully wrapped box. Her eyes sparkled with the love and care that had become her trademark.
I took the box, my hands shaking slightly. I wasn’t nervous about the gift inside — it was the surprise I had for her that had my heart racing.
“Thank you,” I replied, feeling grateful for this woman who had stood by me through everything. “I have a surprise for you too, but… you’ll need to pack your things.”
The look of confusion on her face was immediate. “Pack my things?” she echoed, the joy fading into uncertainty. “Are you… Are you serious?”
“Yes,” I said, my voice steady despite the turmoil inside. “I want you to pack your things in the next hour. You’re leaving this house.”
Her laughter, light and disbelieving at first, faded as she saw the seriousness in my eyes. “But why, dear? I thought we were a family…” Her voice trailed off, a hint of despair creeping in.
I could feel my resolve wavering. The pain in her eyes was more than I had expected. But I couldn’t back down. Not now. Not yet.
“It’s time,” I began, feeling the weight of the moment. “I’ve been planning this since the day Dad died. You are going to another city.”
She sat at the kitchen table, her hands shaking as she reached for something to hold, but her fingers grasped at nothing. Her breath hitched as she whispered, “I don’t understand. What did I do? Why are you sending me away?”
In a moment that felt like a scene from a movie, I loaded her things into the car and drove her to a new place, all while she sat beside me in silence, filled with confusion and sorrow.
The drive was long and quiet, filled with unspoken questions and tension. I was the first to speak.
“You didn’t know that my father opened an account in my name when I was a child, saving money for my education. Since his death, I’ve put my money from jobs and gifts into this account. Now, there’s a large sum.”
Olivia turned to me, a mix of pain and understanding in her eyes. “I understand. You’re an adult now, and you don’t need me anymore. But why are you sending me so far away? You don’t want to see me at all?”
Her voice cracked, and it felt like a dagger in my chest. I never thought this moment would hurt so much.
As we pulled up in front of a beautiful house, the surprise I had been hiding was finally ready to be revealed.
“I will use some of this money for my education,” I continued, pointing to the house. “At an Ivy League university in the city where we’re now, where I’ve already been accepted. Do you see this house?”
“Yes,” she whispered, her voice heavy with confusion and a hint of hope.
“I bought this house for you,” I revealed, the tension finally breaking. “There was enough money for everything. Now I will study here and you will live next door. We won’t have to be apart, and if you want, you can go back to our old house at any time, or we can return together after I finish my studies.”
She sat in stunned silence, her eyes locked on the house. “You… you bought this for me?” she whispered, her voice shaking.
Tears came then, marking the moment with emotions that words could hardly capture. We hugged, our tears mingling, showing the depth of our bond and the love that had grown between us over the years.
“I love you, Sarah,” Olivia said, her voice barely a whisper but still clear.
“I love you too,” I replied, reaching for the house keys in my bag and placing them in her hand.
It was a birthday unlike any other, marked not just by receiving gifts but by giving a future, a home, and a promise of family, no matter what life might bring.
This was our story, a stepdaughter and her stepmom, navigating life together and proving that love knows no bounds.
As we stood there, holding each other in front of her new home, I felt a wave of relief wash over me. I had done it: I had given back to the woman who had given me so much.
For the first time in years, I felt like I could truly breathe, knowing we had a future together.
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