Dad & fiancée exclude his daughter from their wedding after she bought a dress & shoes for it

Reddit is the place where people share stories of their life and ask fellow redditors for advice and opinion on the decision they make.

A teenage girl recently shared that her dad and his wife-to-be excluded her from their wedding and she explained the reasons behind that heartbreaking decision.

“I (f18) was always pretty close to my dad. Closer to my mom but I often visited my dad (about 3-4 times a week). A few years ago he started dating “Anna”. Anna and I always got along when my dad proposed I was happy Anna seemed like she would be a great stepmom,” she started her post.

OP said that she was overly excited and was looking forward to the wedding. She bought a dress and shoes, but then her dad told her that he and his fiancée needed to talk to her about something important.

“Well a few weeks before the wedding after I had bought everything (dress, shoes, etc) my dad and Anna said they needed to “talk to me” Anna and my dad decided to have a child free wedding which I get especially for young kids.

“Well turns out child-free means no one under 18. On the day of the wedding, I was still going to be 17 so, therefore, I’m not allowed to be at the wedding because Anna wants to stay true to the child-free rule even for the daughter of the groom and her about-to-be stepdaughter.”

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Devastated, OP told her mom what her dad and Anna said to her. The mom was as heartbroken as her daughter and decided to take her on vacation so that she cheer up. At the same time, the mom told the rest of the family what her ex-husband did to their daughter. Understandably, most of them were shocked and angry.

Later, OP posted birthday pictures on Facebook and wrote, “I’m so glad my dad and Anna didn’t allow me at their wedding since I was under 18; I feel more mature since yesterday.”

“The family was freaking out asking if that was true and bashing my dad and Anna. I later got a bunch of texts from my dad and Anna calling me immature and a selfish brat and that’s why I was too immature to be at a wedding. I was talking to some friends and they said I was kinda an AH for doing that and I should have just let it go.”

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Fellow redditors shared their opinions and agreed that OP wasn’t an AH for telling the family what her dad did to her.

“NTA. What kind of man doesn’t have his own child at his wedding? Anyway, they made the choice, if they believe it was the right choice they should have no issue about it being publicly known. Plus, people might well assume you weren’t there because you disapproved of his new wife or chose a vacation instead. Ensuring people know WHY you weren’t there saves your own reputation,” one person commented.

“The no children was made for you. I’m sorry but let that sink in. She made that rule to keep you out. You now know where you stand in their marriage…you don’t. I’m so sorry. NTA. I personally think it was EPIC. Harsh but epic. They deserved more than that. I would even update it with pictures of their texts,” another added.

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A third wrote, “I can’t help but wonder if she purposefully pick a date before OP birthday just so she couldn’t go. If the dad & step-mom wanted to make it child free but make sure OP was there they could have made sure the date was AFTER OP birthday but to make it just 2 days before….. nah they didn’t want her there & was just trying to use that as an excuse.”

We believe the dad was not right for excluding his own daughter from the wedding.

What are your thoughts on this?

My Mom Put My Car Into Her Storage Unit to Punish Me – When I Saw What Else She Was Hiding There, I Went Pale

I craved adventure and freedom, but it came at the cost of my mother’s tears. One day, she put my car in her storage unit to punish me for coming home late. I did what any 17-year-old boy would do. I stole the keys to the unit to retrieve my car, but what I found hidden there shattered my heart like glass.

Do you love your mother? What a silly question to ask! I often dreaded coming home, you know. Mom’s questions fired at me the moment I walked in. “Where were you, Eddie? Why are you late? Bla bla bla!” I couldn’t understand why she was suffocating me with her constant concern. If only I’d known then what I know now, I would’ve given anything to hear her scold me again.

Portrait of a sad teenage boy | Source: Midjourney

Portrait of a sad teenage boy | Source: Midjourney

It was the autumn of 2021. I was 17, craving adventure and independence. Every day, it was the same routine. I’d barely get my key in the lock before my mom Charlotte’s voice would ring out from inside.

“Eddie? Is that you?”

I’d brace myself, knowing what was coming next. The moment I stepped through that door, she’d be there, arms crossed, eyes narrowed, brimming with tears.

God, not again! I’d roll my eyes.

A teary-eyed woman | Source: Midjourney

A teary-eyed woman | Source: Midjourney

“I was worried sick, and you don’t even care. How could you be so irresponsible?”

The questions came rapid-fire, each one making me feel smaller, more suffocated. I’d try to answer, but my words always seemed to fall short.

“I was just out with friends, Mom. We lost track of time.”

“Lost track of time? Eddie, you know better than that. This is unacceptable. You need to start taking me seriously.”

An annoyed teenage boy frowning | Source: Midjourney

An annoyed teenage boy frowning | Source: Midjourney

“I’m 17, Mom. You don’t need to worry about me every second.”

But she did worry. Every. Single. Second. A lot lately. Weird. And it was driving me crazy.

I didn’t understand then. How could I?

I was too caught up in my own world, too eager for freedom to see what was really happening. But looking back now, I wish I’d paid more attention. I wish I’d seen the fear behind her questions, the love behind her worry.

Because soon enough, I’d understand why she held on so tight. And when I did, it broke my heart.

A worried woman | Source: Midjourney

A worried woman | Source: Midjourney

The day everything changed started like any other. I came home late, way past curfew. Mom was waiting in the living room, the dim light casting shadows across her face.

“Eddie, we need to talk about this.”

I sighed, dropping my backpack by the door. “Mom, please. Not tonight. I’m tired.”

“You’re tired? I’ve been up for hours, wondering where you were and if you were safe. I haven’t eaten a thing because I was so worried about you.”

“I’m fine, okay?” I snapped. “Why do you always have to make such a big deal out of everything?”

A frustrated teenage boy frowning | Source: Midjourney

A frustrated teenage boy frowning | Source: Midjourney

She flinched, and for a moment, I saw something in her eyes. Hurt, maybe, or disappointment. But it was gone in an instant, replaced by anger.

“You’re grounded,” she sternly said. “And I’m taking your car keys.”

“What? Mom, you can’t do that!” I protested, but she had already turned away.

“We’ll talk about this in the morning.”

I stomped up to my room, slamming the door behind me. I didn’t know it then, but that would be the last time I’d slam a door in her face.

A boy gaping in shock | Source: Midjourney

A boy gaping in shock | Source: Midjourney

The next morning, my car was gone. Just gone. I ran back inside, panic rising in my throat.

“Mom! My car’s missing!”

She looked up from her coffee, her face calm. “I moved it, Eddie. You’ll get it back when you start showing some responsibility.”

I couldn’t believe it. “You can’t just take my car! Grandma gave it to me! You have no right—”

“I’m your mother. I’m doing what’s best for you.”

I stormed back to my room, furious and determined to get my car back. That’s when I hatched my plan. I knew she had a storage unit. It had to be there.

A boy storming upstairs | Source: Midjourney

A boy storming upstairs | Source: Midjourney

I waited until she left for a doctor’s appointment, then snuck into her room to find the keys. It felt wrong, but my anger overshadowed my guilt.

I had to get my freedom back. My car was my pride and love. It was my everything.

When I reached the storage unit, I felt a surge of triumph. I’d show her. I’d get my car and prove I could be responsible.

But when I opened that door, I FROZE.

A startled teenage boy | Source: Midjourney

A startled teenage boy | Source: Midjourney

Boxes. Dozens of them. Gift-wrapped. All neatly labeled with my name and future dates?

My stomach dropped as I read the labels: “18th birthday,” “Graduation,” “First job,” “Wedding,” and “Baby Shower?”

With shaking hands, I opened the box marked for my 18th birthday. Inside was a brown leather jacket, the exact one I’d been eyeing for months. How did she know?

I reached for another box, this one labeled “Graduation.” It was full of letters, all addressed to me, all in her handwriting.

A pile of gift-wrapped boxes | Source: Midjourney

A pile of gift-wrapped boxes | Source: Midjourney

The truth hit me hard as I sat there on the cold concrete floor, surrounded by pieces of a future Mom had carefully planned for me.

The doctor’s appointments. The exhaustion. The way she’d been holding on so tight.

Mom was sick. Really sick.

My eyes welled up as I pieced it all together. She wasn’t punishing me. She was PREPARING. Preparing for a time when she wouldn’t be here to see these milestones.

A teary-eyed teenage boy | Source: Midjourney

A teary-eyed teenage boy | Source: Midjourney

I don’t know how long I sat there, crying among the boxes of my future. All I know is that when I finally left that storage unit, I wasn’t the same person who had entered it.

I hurried home in a daze, my anger replaced by a crushing guilt. How could I have been so blind? So selfish?

I slipped quietly into the house, returning her keys as if I’d never touched them.

The anger that had consumed me for weeks was gone, replaced by guilt. I’d been so wrapped up in my own problems that I’d completely missed what was happening right in front of me.

A key hung on a holder | Source: Midjourney

A key hung on a holder | Source: Midjourney

Later that night, Mom was in the kitchen, stirring something on the stove. She looked up, surprise flickering across her face.

“Eddie? I thought you’d be out with friends.”

I crossed the room in three strides and wrapped my arms around her, hugging her tighter than I had in years.

“Eddie? What’s wrong?”

I pulled back, looking into her eyes. “Nothing’s wrong, Mom. I just… I love you. You know that, right? After Dad left us, you were my rock.”

A teary-eyed woman in the kitchen | Source: Midjourney

A teary-eyed woman in the kitchen | Source: Midjourney

She cupped my face in her hands, her eyes searching mine. “Awwww, of course, I know that, sweetie. I love you too. And I’ll always be your rock, okay?”

I helped her finish dinner that night, and we ate together at the table for the first time in months. We talked about everything and nothing, and I soaked up every word, every laugh, and every moment.

As I was clearing the dishes, I turned to her. “Hey, Mom? I’m sorry. For everything.”

She smiled a sad, beautiful smile, one that I’ll never forget. “Oh, Eddie. You have nothing to be sorry for.”

But I did. And I was determined to make it right. Without letting her know that I knew her secret.

A teary-eyed boy smiling | Source: Midjourney

A teary-eyed boy smiling | Source: Midjourney

The next few months were different.

I stopped going out late and stopped fighting her on every little thing. Instead, we spent our evenings watching old movies, looking through photo albums, cooking, and just being together.

One night, as we sat on the porch swing, watching the sunset, she turned to me.

“Eddie, there’s something I need to tell you.”

I knew what was coming, but it still felt like a punch to the gut when she said the words.

“I’m sick, honey. And it’s not getting better.”

A sad woman sitting on a swing | Source: Midjourney

A sad woman sitting on a swing | Source: Midjourney

I took her hand, squeezing it gently. I didn’t want to know what it was that was going to steal her away from me.

“I know, Mom. How long have you known?”

She sighed, looking out at the fading light. “A while now. I wanted to tell you, but I didn’t know how. I didn’t want to burden you.”

“Mom, You could never be a burden. Never.”

We sat there in silence, watching the stars come out one by one. And for the first time in a long time, I felt at peace.

The last few months with Mom were the best we’d ever had. We didn’t waste time on arguments or petty disagreements. Every moment was precious, and we both knew it.

Silhouette of a boy with his mother on the beach | Source: Midjourney

Silhouette of a boy with his mother on the beach | Source: Midjourney

She told me stories from her childhood, taught me how to cook her famous lasagna, and showed me old home videos I’d never seen before.

And through it all, she never complained, never showed fear. She was so strong, right until the end. And then, the day I dreaded came.

Mom slipped away in her sleep, a small smile on her face. And though I thought I was prepared, the loss hit me harder than I could have imagined.

A cemetery | Source: Midjourney

A cemetery | Source: Midjourney

Months passed.

On my 18th birthday, I opened the box she’d left for me for this day. I put on the brown leather jacket, feeling closer to her somehow. And I read the first of many letters she’d written, her words bringing both tears and comfort.

“My dearest Eddie,” it began. “If you’re reading this, it means I’m not there to celebrate this day with you. But know that I’m with you, always. I’m so proud of the man you’ve become.”

I read those words repeatedly, hearing her voice in every sentence.

A boy wearing a brown leather jacket | Source: Midjourney

A boy wearing a brown leather jacket | Source: Midjourney

It’s been two years now, but I still have those boxes.

Some days, I think about opening another one, but then I stop myself. It’s like I’m saving Mom for later, piece by piece because even though she’s gone, she’s still somehow with me.

I’ve learned that love doesn’t end with death. It lives on in memories, in the lessons we’ve learned, and in the person we’ve become because of that love.

Mom taught me that. She taught me so much, right up until the end. And maybe, when the time is right, I’ll open the next box, and she’ll teach me something new all over again.

A pile of gift boxes on a bed | Source: Midjourney

A pile of gift boxes on a bed | Source: Midjourney

But for now, I’m holding onto the memories we made in those last precious months. The laughter, the quiet moments, and the love that filled every second. Because in the end, that’s what matters most.

Love. Family. The time we had together.

And I’ll cherish every moment, just like she taught me to.

A thoughtful boy smiling | Source: Midjourney

A thoughtful boy smiling | Source: Midjourney

To those who’ve just finished reading my story, I have one request: go and hug your mother. Right now. There’s no force more powerful, more pure than a mother’s love. Cherish it while you can. Never take her for granted, and please, never hurt her with harsh words or thoughtless actions.

You see, God doesn’t walk down from the heavens. He’s already sent us angels in the form of our mothers. Hold onto yours tight, and never let go. Because one day, like me, you might find yourself wishing for just one more hug, one more scolding… and one more chance to say “I love you.”

Love you, Mom. Forever & Ever. 

A woman's tomb | Source: Midjourney

A woman’s tomb | Source: Midjourney

This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.

The author and publisher make no claims to the accuracy of events or the portrayal of characters and are not liable for any misinterpretation. This story is provided “as is,” and any opinions expressed are those of the characters and do not reflect the views of the author or publisher.

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