In a timeless tale of romance, Naval Officer Zack Mayo swept factory worker Paula into his arms and carried her from her workplace, leaving fans everywhere wishing they were the beautiful Debra Winger.
The legendary scene in the romantic drama an Officer and a Gentleman–where Richard Gere played Officer Zack Mayo, the handsome hero in navy whites–became the benchmark of love stories for daydreaming fans.
Acting alongside Hollywood’s hottest men, Debra Winger was the envy of many.
Today, Winger, 67, is as beautiful as ever. In the past few years, Winger has posted photos herself on Instagram, first with brown hair and now to a natural wavy gray.
Winger’s first starring role was in the 1976 film Slumber Party ‘57, which led to a part on the hit TV series Wonder Woman (1979), where she played Drusilla, the younger sister to Lynda Carter’s Diana Prince/Wonder Woman. Winger was asked to appear more often but concerned she’d be typecast by that role, she declined.
There were no regrets for that decision, the early ‘80s would be prosperous for the rising star.
At the height of her young career, she received numerous nods from the Academy and Golden Globes for performances in three iconic movies of the 1980’s.
In 1980, she starred in Urban Cowboy, with John Travolta, who at the time was driving fans wild with his smooth dance moves in Saturday Night Fever (1977) and Grease (1988); as Paula in an Officer and a Gentleman (1982) and in Terms of Endearment (1983), where she played Emma, a dying young woman with an over-bearing mother, Aurora, played by Shirley MacLaine.
Despite her huge success, Winger, carving hours from her acting schedule, took a mini Hollywood hiatus, and more than four decades after her rise to stardom, speculation of why she left is still circulating.
Most of these rumours revolve around the feuds that Winger had with her co-stars.
Though fans couldn’t get enough of the handsome Gere, it’s been widely reported that Winger had enough of him on the set.
According to an excerpt published on ABC News from the book, “An Actor and a Gentleman,” by co-star, Louis Gossett Jr., who played Sgt. Emil Foley: “The onscreen chemistry between the two of them was terrific, but it was a different story once the camera was turned off. They couldn’t have stayed farther apart from each other.”
Gossett also claims that Winger didn’t think much of Gere’s acting and wrote that she once described Gere as “a brick wall.” And, the film’s director, Taylor Hackford, whom she also did not likе, she referred to as “animal.”
It wasn’t only people on that film that ruffled her feathers.
Winger, a free spirit in real life and in her role as Emma, also clashed with the prolific MacLaine, a glamourous, eccentric and seasoned veteran.
Their first meeting set the stage for their relationship.
“To see how my character would feel I was wearing all my leftover movie-star fur coats,” MacLaine said in an interview with People. “There was Debra dressed in combat boots and a miniskirt…I thought, ‘Oh my goodness.’”
People writes, “Indeed, the set became the source of Hollywood’s most relished rumors. Winger wanted top billing. One reportedly slugged the other.”
And then, the women were pitted against each other in the Oscars when they were both nominated for best actress.
MacLaine, taking the trophy home, said in her acceptance speech, “I deserve this!”
Rumors aside, Winger insists she “pushed the pause button” on Hollywood for personal reasons and not professional.
“The parts that were coming, I wasn’t interested in. I’d already done that or I’d already felt that. I needed to be challenged. My life challenged me more than the parts, so I dove into it fully,” Winger told People.
After starring in the 1995 romcom Forget Paris with Billy Crystal, Winger took a six-year break.
In that time, she moved to New York City and shifted her focus to actor Arliss Howard, whom she married in 1996. The pair have a son, Gideon Babe, who was born in 1997, and she is stepmother to Sam, Howard’s son from a previous marriage. She also has another biological child, Noah Hutton, whom she mothered while married to her first husband, Timothy Hutton (1986 to 1990).
She reappeared in the 2001 film Big Bad Love, that was directed and produced by her husband, who also co-starred alongside Winger and Rosanna Arquette, who’s next project was 2002 film Searching for Debra Winger. As director of the documentary, Arquette attempts to answer why Winger temporarily аbаndоned her career at peak performance.
Winger gained some momentum with roles in Rachel Getting Married (2008) with Anne Hathaway, the 2017 romcom The Lovers, and the crime-comedy, Kajillionaire (2020).
In 2021, she was in With/In, Volume two of the anthological drama film, in the segment Her Own, which is written and directed by her husband, who also co-stars.
“I don’t know what Hollywood is. I’m living under the freaking sign now, and I just stare at it and laugh. Los Angeles is a place, but the idea of Hollywood doesn’t really exist for me,” Winger said, adding, “…although there must be some in-crowds that I just don’t know about.”
We can’t imagine a Hollywood without Debra Winger and we hope she soon gets to take home an Academy Award ! What are your favorite Winger movies?
I Returned Home after Giving Birth to Find My Baby’s Room Destroyed and Repainted Black
The joy of bringing my newborn baby girl home was ripped away when I stepped into her room. Her beautiful pink nursery was destroyed, the walls repainted black, the crib broken, and all the toys were gone. But it was my mother-in-law’s cruel reason that shattered me most.
The soft beep of monitors filled the hospital room as I cradled my newborn daughter, Amelia, in my arms. Her tiny fingers wrapped around mine, and I couldn’t help but marvel at her perfect features. Those tiny feet, button nose. She was PERFECT! The C-section had been tough, but holding her made it all worth it…
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“She’s beautiful, Rosie,” my husband Tim whispered, his eyes glistening with tears.
I nodded, too choked up to speak. After months of anticipation, our little girl was finally here. I thought of the nursery waiting for her at home with the pastel pink walls, the white crib, and all the wonderful stuffed animals arranged like a little army.
Everything was perfect.
That’s when a sudden knock at the door interrupted our moment. Tim’s mom, Janet, bustled in without waiting for an invitation.
A breathtaking pink nursery with toys and crib | Source: Midjourney
“Let me see my grandbaby!” she chirped, reaching for Amelia.
As I reluctantly handed her over, Janet’s smile completely froze, replaced by a look of horror. She stared at Amelia, then at Tim, then back at the baby.
She did this a couple of times before clearing her throat, her eyes boring into mine as if she were going to swallow me whole.
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Tim left the ward to answer an urgent phone call, leaving me basking in his mother’s scrutiny.
“There’s NO WAY this is Tim’s child,” she said, her voice dripping with accusation. “What did you do, Rosie?”
I felt like I’d been slapped. My mouth fell open, and for a moment, I couldn’t breathe.
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“Janet, how could you say that? Of course, Amelia is Tim’s baby. I would never—”
“Don’t lie to me,” Janet hissed, thrusting Amelia back into my arms. “I know what I see. This isn’t over, Rosie. Not by a long shot.”
Before I could respond, Janet spun on her heel and stormed out of the room, leaving me clutching Amelia, tears stinging my eyes. I looked down at my daughter’s perfect face, her skin a beautiful deep brown.
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The thing is, our daughter, Amelia, was born with beautiful dark skin. Tim and I are both white, so yeah, it was a surprise at first. But upset? Not even close.
We were in awe of her perfection. After the initial shock wore off, we remembered that genetics can be wild. Turns out, Tim’s great-grandfather was Black, a fact his family had swept under the rug for generations.
Suddenly, it all made sense. We saw Amelia as a precious link to a part of Tim’s heritage that had been hidden away. But my mother-in-law? She didn’t see our little miracle. All she saw was a threat to her narrow-minded view of family.
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“It’s okay, sweetie. Mommy and Daddy love you so much. That’s all that matters,” I whispered.
I rocked Amelia gently, trying to calm my racing heart. I knew this was just the beginning of a storm, but I never imagined how bad it would get.
Two weeks later, I shuffled through our front door, sore and exhausted from the demands of postpartum care. All I wanted was to settle Amelia into her nursery and maybe catch a nap.
“I can’t wait to show you your room, sweetheart,” I cooed to Amelia as we approached the nursery door.
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I turned the handle, pushed the door open, and FROZE. My heart PLUMMETED to my stomach.
The room was… WRONG. So terribly wrong.
Gone were the soft pink walls, replaced by pitch, oppressive black paint. The floral curtains had vanished. Heavy dark drapes blocked out the sunlight instead. And the crib… the crib Tim and I had spent hours putting together? It lay in pieces on the floor.
“Oh my God! What… what happened here?” I stammered, clutching Amelia closer.
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“I thought I’d fix the room,” Janet’s voice came from behind me. “It WASN’T APPROPRIATE anymore.”
I spun around, fury bubbling inside me. “Appropriate? This was my baby’s room! You had no right!”
Janet crossed her arms, a smug grin plastered on her face.
“She’s NOT my grandchild. Look at her. She’s not Tim’s. Both you and Tim are WHITE, but this baby is NOT. I’m not accepting this child into this family.”
I could not believe my MIL was being RACIST!
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I took a deep breath, trying to stay calm for Amelia’s sake. “Janet, we’ve talked about this. Genetics can be unpredictable. And as you know, Tim’s great-grandfather was Black. Amelia IS TIM’S DAUGHTER.”
“I’m not stupid,” Janet spat. “I won’t let some stranger’s child be raised in this house like she belongs here. I redid the room for when you come to your senses and bring her real family to take her.”
As soon as Janet left the room, I pulled out my phone with shaking hands.
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“Tim,” I said when he answered, “you need to come home. NOW.”
“What’s wrong?” Tim’s voice was instantly alert.
“Your mother… she destroyed Amelia’s nursery. She’s saying Amelia isn’t yours because of her skin color. Please, I can’t handle this alone.”
“What the—? I’ll be there in 15 minutes.”
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While I waited, I paced the living room, rocking Amelia gently. My mind raced, trying to process what had happened. How could Janet be so cruel? So racist?
Suddenly, an idea struck me. I pulled out my phone again, this time opening the camera app. With Amelia still in my arms, I walked back to the kitchen where Janet was.
“Janet, can you please explain to me again why you did this to my baby’s room? It’s so utterly unfair.”
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Janet looked up, her eyes cold. “I told you, Rosie. That child isn’t Tim’s. She’s not my granddaughter. I’m not accepting her into this family.”
“But why? Just because of her skin color?”
I kept the conversation going, making sure to capture every hateful word
“Of course! You and Tim are both white. This baby’s skin is dark. She’s clearly not his. You’ve been unfaithful, and I won’t let you trap my son with another man’s child. You’re such a disgrace to this family, Rosie.”
With that, Janet stormed to the stove, not knowing what awaited her next.
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I felt sick to my stomach. When I had enough evidence, I started taking pictures of the destroyed nursery.
“I’m going to show everyone exactly who my mother-in-law really is!” I whispered to myself.
I quietly slipped my phone back into my pocket and retreated to the living room, holding Amelia close. A few minutes later, Tim burst through the door, his face thunderous.
“WHERE IS SHE?”
“Kitchen.”
Tim strode into the kitchen, and I followed, my heart pounding.
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“Mom, what the hell did you do?”
Janet looked up from her tea, her expression innocent. “I did what was necessary! You’ll thank me when you realize she’s not your daughter!”
Tim slammed his hand on the counter, making us all jump.
“Are you out of your mind? Amelia is MY DAUGHTER. My flesh and blood. And if you can’t accept that, you’ll never see her. Or us… ever again.”
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Janet’s face crumpled. “What? You’re choosing them over your mother? I’m trying to protect you!”
“Protect me? From what? Love? Family? Pack your bags, Mom. You’re leaving. Now.”
After Janet stormed out of the house, slamming the door behind her, Tim and I collapsed on the couch. Amelia, miraculously, slept through it all.
“I’m so sorry, Rosie,” Tim whispered, pulling me close. “I never thought she’d go this far.”
I leaned into him, letting the tears fall. “What are we going to do? The nursery…?”
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Tim squeezed my hand. “We’ll fix it. Make it even better than before.”
“But first, I have an idea,” I said.
“We’re going to expose her for who she really is. I recorded her, Tim. When she was making those horrible comments about Amelia. The world needs to know what kind of person she is.”
Tim’s eyes widened, then a slow smile spread across his face. “Yeah, you’re right. She might be my mother. But what she did is so unfair. She needs to be taught a lesson.”
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We posted the photos and video on social media, tagging every family member we could think of. The caption read:
“Guess who needs Biology lessons? My MIL! This is what happens when she refuses to accept her own granddaughter because of the COLOR OF HER SKIN. My baby Amelia deserves better! Some people fail to understand that love & acceptance go beyond superficial differences. Black or white, my child is my UNIVERSE.
And I won’t sit back and watch anyone mock my baby, even if it’s my own MIL. If need be, this mama bear will stand up for her child like a lioness… 🥺👼🏾👩🏻🍼”
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The response was immediate and overwhelming. Comments poured in, condemning Janet’s actions. Family members called, offering support and apologies. Even Janet’s church group reached out, horrified by her behavior.
“I can’t believe how many people are on our side,” I said to Tim as we scrolled through the responses.
Just then, his phone buzzed with a text from his sister. “Oh my god,” he gasped.
“What is it?” I asked, peering at his screen.
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“Lily sent the post to Mom’s boss. Mom… she got fired.”
I sat back, stunned. “Wow. I didn’t expect that.”
Tim ran a hand through his hair. “Me neither. But… I can’t say she didn’t deserve it.”
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Weeks passed, and slowly, life settled into a new normal. We repainted the nursery, this time a gorgeous shade of soft pink that made Amelia’s eyes shine. Tim’s sister helped us pick out new furniture, and soon the room was filled with love and laughter once again.
One afternoon, as I rocked Amelia in her new glider, Tim came in with a strange expression on his face.
“What is it?” I asked, immediately concerned.
He held up his phone. “It’s… it’s Mom. She’s demanding to talk to us.”
“What did you say?”
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Tim sat on the ottoman, his face hard. “I told her she’s not welcome here. Not now, not ever.”
“Good. I don’t think I could face her after what she did.”
Tim reached out and squeezed my hand. “We’re done with her toxicity. Amelia deserves better.”
I nodded slowly. “Actions have consequences. Maybe this will finally make her realize how wrong she was.”
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Just then, Amelia started fussing. I scooped her up, breathing in her sweet baby scent.
“You know what?” I said, looking at Tim. “I don’t even care about Janet anymore. We have everything we need right here.”
Tim smiled, wrapping his arms around us both. “You’re right. This is our family, and it’s perfect just the way it is.”
A baby girl smiling | Source: Midjourney
As I stood there, surrounded by the love of my husband and daughter, I knew we had weathered the storm. Janet’s cruelty had tried to tear us apart, but instead, it had only made us stronger.
As for Janet? I doubt she’ll ever recover from the humiliation. And frankly, she doesn’t deserve to. Do you think I took it too far? Was my MIL’s behavior justified in any way? Drop your comments.
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