Making sacrifices for your beliefs and sticking up for what you believe in is admirable. The 18-year-old Colorado native and former high school wrestler Brendan Johnston is all too familiar with this. Brendan made a risky choice in 2018 that essentially put a stop to his high school wrestling career. He declined to compete in two state tournament matches against female opponents, citing personal and religious convictions as his justification.
In recent years, the question of whether it is fair to compete physically between adult males and adult girls has gained more and more attention. Many people think it’s unjust to expect men and women to compete on an equal footing because they are fundamentally different from one other, both biologically and in other ways.
Brendan objected to the thought of going up against Skyview High’s Jaslynn Gallegos in the state tournament’s opening round. He also declined to take part in his consolation match against Valley High’s Angel Rios in the third round as a senior at Colorado Springs’ Classical Academy. An interview with KDVR provided a Christian explanation of Brendan’s choice. He said he felt it was too violent and physically uncomfortable to wrestle with a girl. He added that his background and religious beliefs had influenced how he saw women’s roles and distinctions from men.
It’s critical to remember that Brendan’s choice has repercussions. He finished sixth in the tournament while Jaslynn and Angel finished fourth and fifth, respectively, as a result of not wrestling the two females.
While acknowledging Brendan’s decision, Jaslynn voiced her disappointment at not being able to challenge him. Her gender doesn’t define her ability; she views herself first and foremost as a wrestler. She is aware, nevertheless, that social judgments can still hinder her.
Brendan made a contentious decision that sparked debates and dissenting views. How do you feel about Brendan’s choice not to engage in a wrestling match with a female? We would be delighted to hear your opinions.
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I Wasn’t Able to Contact My Wife for Weeks — Then My Father-in-Law Called and Said, ‘I Think You Need to Know the Truth’
For nearly two decades, I thought my marriage was unshakable — until one morning, my wife vanished, leaving only a cryptic note. Weeks later, a single phone call revealed a betrayal so deep it changed everything.
I never thought of myself as the kind of man who’d end up abandoned. Not me. Not Adam, a 43-year-old husband, father of three, and steady provider. My life wasn’t perfect, but it was predictable and solid.
For nineteen years, my wife, Sandy, and I built something real together: a home, a family, a life that felt like it could withstand anything.
And then, one morning, she was just… gone.
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It started like any other day. I woke up groggy, rubbing the sleep from my eyes as I reached for Sandy’s side of the bed. Empty. That wasn’t too unusual; she was an early riser, always up before me, usually making breakfast or lost in one of her endless projects.
But when I stumbled into the kitchen, there was no fresh coffee, no sizzling bacon, no scribbled note about running errands. Just silence.
That’s when I saw it.
A single piece of paper, folded neatly on the counter.
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I frowned, picked it up, and my stomach clenched the moment I read the words.
“Don’t call me. Don’t go to the police. Just accept it.”
I read it twice. Then again. The words blurred together. My hands felt numb.
What the hell was this? A prank? Some kind of cruel joke?
“Sandy?” I called out, my voice too loud in the still house. No answer.
I checked the bedroom again; her closet was half-empty with drawers yanked open as if she’d packed in a hurry.
That’s when panic sank its claws into me.
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I grabbed my phone and called her. Straight to voicemail. Called again. Same thing.
I texted her: “Sandy, what is this? Where are you? Please, call me.”
Nothing.
Within the hour, I was calling everyone — her friends, her coworkers. No one had seen or heard from her. Then I called her parents.
Bernard, my father-in-law, answered. His voice was careful, too careful.
“Adam, son, maybe she just needed space,” he said, like he was trying to convince himself more than me.
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“Space?” I repeated. “Bernard, she left a note saying not to call her. That I should just ‘accept it.’ That’s not ‘needing space’—that’s running away.”
A long pause. Then a sigh. “Just… give it some time.”
That’s when I knew he was holding something back.
But what choice did I have? The police refused to help, claiming she was an adult who had left willingly. “No signs of foul play,” they said. “This happens more often than you’d think.”
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Days turned into a week. Then two.
The kids were wrecked.
Seth, my fifteen-year-old, shut down completely; silent, brooding, locking himself in his room for hours. Sarah, sixteen, was angry. At Sandy, at me, at the universe. “She just left?” she’d yell. “Did she even think about us?”
And Alice… God, Alice. Ten years old, still waiting by the front door some nights, hoping her mom would walk through.
“Maybe Mom’s lost,” she whispered one evening as I tucked her in. “Maybe she needs help.”
I forced a smile. “Maybe, sweetheart.”
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But I didn’t believe it.
I barely slept and spent hours staring at my phone, willing it to ring. And then, one night, three weeks after she disappeared, it finally did.
Not from Sandy.
From Bernard.
It wasn’t a normal call. It was a Facebook video call, something he never did. That alone sent my nerves into overdrive.
I answered immediately. His face filled the screen, lit only by a dim lamp. He looked… haunted.
“Bernard?” I said, heart pounding. “What’s going on?”
He hesitated, rubbed a hand over his face. “Adam… I think you need to know the truth.”
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I froze. “What truth?”
“It’s about Sandy.” His voice dropped to a near whisper. “But before I tell you, you have to promise me something.”
“What?” My pulse roared in my ears. “Bernard, where is she? Is she safe?”
“Promise me first,” he said, his expression unreadable. “Don’t tell Sandy I told you this. She made us swear, but I—” He exhaled shakily. “I couldn’t keep this from you.”
I hesitated. My throat felt tight, like my body already knew the truth before my mind could process it.
“I promise,” I finally said.
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Bernard exhaled slowly as if the weight of this secret had been crushing him for weeks. His voice wavered.
“She’s in France,” he said. “With him.”
I frowned. “Him?” The word felt foreign in my mouth. Then, before he could even answer, the realization hit me like a freight train.
“No,” I said, shaking my head. “You don’t mean —”
“Her first love, Jeremy,” Bernard confirmed. “The one from high school. The one she only left behind because he moved to Europe.” His voice was bitter, edged with something I couldn’t quite place. “She told us she’d dreamed of this moment for years.”
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My stomach twisted so violently that I thought I might be sick.
I gripped the phone tighter. “You’re telling me she — planned this?”
Bernard hesitated before answering, his voice strained. “Yes.”
I sat down hard, the air sucked out of my lungs.
“She said she’d be back in six months,” he continued. “She made us swear not to tell you. But I — I just couldn’t keep quiet anymore. You and the kids deserve better than this.”
My hands curled into fists. “She abandoned us.” The words came out hollow, like I couldn’t believe them even as I said them.
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Bernard let out a shaky breath. “I raised her better than this,” he murmured. “Or at least, I thought I did. But she left you. She left her own children. And for what? A fling? A fantasy from when she was seventeen?”
His disgust was palpable. I knew he was struggling with this as much as I was.
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He went on, his voice thick with emotion. “At first, I kept her secret because I thought maybe she just needed time. That maybe she’d come to her senses. But when I spoke to her last, she wasn’t talking like someone who regretted her choices. She sounded… happy. Free. As if none of you even existed.”
The words settled over me like a suffocating weight.
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Bernard sighed. “But it’s not just my shame I can’t bear — it’s what she’s done to you, to her children. I won’t let them suffer because of her selfishness. You need to protect them, Adam. And for that, you need to know the truth.”
I pressed my fingers against my temple. My brain felt foggy, my thoughts scattered.
“Do you have proof?” I finally asked.
Silence stretched between us. Then, I saw a new message pop up.
Bernard had sent me a voice recording.
I hesitated, then pressed play.
Sandy’s voice filled the room. Light. Excited.
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“I feel alive for the first time in years,” she said, practically breathless. “Maybe I’ll stay longer. Maybe another few months. He makes me so happy, Dad. You have to understand.”
My jaw tightened so hard it hurt.
“Understand?” I muttered to myself.
I felt sick. Physically sick.
The woman I had spent almost two decades loving, the mother of my children, had left us for this.
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That night, I didn’t sleep. I sat at the kitchen table, staring at the cold, empty space where Sandy used to sit, where she used to sip her coffee in the mornings, where she used to laugh at my terrible jokes.
It was over. All of it.
The next morning, I contacted a lawyer.
I prepared divorce papers.
If she wanted her fresh start, I’d give it to her.
And then — eight months later — she returned.
It happened on a Sunday.
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I had just come home from grocery shopping when I heard the sound of a car pulling into the driveway. I didn’t think much of it at first until the knock on the door came.
I opened it, and there she was.
Sandy.
She looked different. Not in a dramatic way, but just… less. Her usual confident posture was gone, replaced with something hesitant, almost fragile.
“Adam,” she breathed, her eyes glassy. “I’m home.”
I leaned against the doorframe, arms crossed. “Are you?”
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Her lips trembled. “Please, can we talk?”
I didn’t invite her in. Instead, I stepped outside and closed the door behind me.
The kids were out with their grandparents; I wasn’t about to let them be blindsided by this.
“Talk,” I said flatly.
Her eyes darted to the ground. “It was a mistake,” she whispered. “I left him.”
I didn’t react.
She swallowed hard. “Please, Adam, let’s fix this.”
I let out a short, humorless laugh. “Fix what?”
She flinched. “Us. Our family. I — I thought you’d wait for me.”
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I stared at her, stunned by the sheer audacity of that statement.
“Wait for you?” I repeated. “You planned your escape. You told your father you felt ‘alive’ for the first time in years. You chose this, Sandy. And now that your fantasy crashed and burned, you want to come back?”
Her eyes filled with tears. “I was confused. I — I made a mistake.”
I shook my head. “No. You made a choice. A conscious, selfish choice. You put your happiness above everything else. Above me. Above your own children.“
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A tear slid down her cheek. “Adam, please. I know I messed up. I know I hurt you, but —”
“You didn’t just hurt me,” I cut in. “You destroyed our kids. Seth barely speaks anymore. Sarah doesn’t trust anyone. Alice still waits by the window some nights, thinking you’ll come home. You did that, Sandy. And now you want to waltz back in like none of it happened?”
She sobbed openly now. “I love you. I love them. I just — I lost my way.”
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I exhaled slowly, looking at the woman I once knew and realizing she wasn’t the same person anymore.
And neither was I.
“You lost everything,” I told her.
She blinked, her breath hitching.
I stepped back, reached into my pocket, and pulled out an envelope.
Divorce papers.
She looked down at them, her face crumbling. “No,” she whispered. “Adam, please —”
I shook my head. “You made your choice, Sandy. Now I’m making mine.”
I turned and walked back inside, locking the door behind me.
She was alone.
Just like she had left us.
And I didn’t look back.
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Do you think I did the right thing? What would you have done in my place?
This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.
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