In the world of our beloved pets, birthdays hold a special significance. It’s not just another day on the calendar, but rather a momentous occasion when love and affection abound, and tails wag with boundless excitement. Nevertheless, there’s a unique tale of a dog who has realized that sometimes, birthdays can be a lonely affair, even for our four-legged companions
As the sun peeked over the horizon, a small furry friend with a wistful gaze welcomed the day. It was the dog’s special day, one that typically brings merriment, well-wishes, and a delectable cake decorated with glowing candles for humans. However, the dog noticed something peculiar – nobody seemed to remember. The hours ticked by, and the dog’s heart sank deeper into solitude, yearning for a pat on the head or a jubilant chorus of “Happy Birthday.” But alas, the silence remained. As the day progressed, the dog’s mind raced with questions, “Am I not significant? Does no one care?”
The dog’s heart felt heavy due to the absence of well-wishes from family and friends. It did not receive any cheerful phone calls, cards, messages, or even a simple text with a “Happy Birthday” message. As a result, the dog felt unimportant and forgotten. Despite this, the dog found comfort in the presence of its human. The familiar scent and reassuring presence of the person who had always been a source of love and support brought solace to the dog. In the absence of external celebrations, the dog sought joy in simple pleasures such as a gentle pat or a favorite treat.
However, the day lacked the festive atmosphere that is typical of birthdays. There were no balloons, streamers, singing, or laughter. The dog particularly missed having a birthday cake, a symbol of celebration and a treat that signifies a special day for both dogs and humans. The absence of the sweet, fluffy delight left a void in the dog’s heart.
Nevertheless, the dog found comfort in the furry companion by its side. Although equally uninterested in fanfare, the furry friend was content to share the solitude without judgment or disappointment. To this canine companion, the dog was simply a friend, perhaps feeling a little downcast but a friend nonetheless.
As the dog was alone, it began to contemplate the true meaning of birthdays. It realized that it had been placing too much importance on external validation and grand gestures. Birthdays were about more than just celebration; they were about connection, love, and being in each other’s company. The dog came to a realization that it was not unimportant or unloved, but instead valued for the everyday moments spent with its human and furry companion. This newfound appreciation filled the dog with gratitude for the companionship it had, instead of focusing on what it didn’t have on that particular day. As the day came to an end, the dog found comfort in the embrace of its human and the warmth of its furry friend. Although the day was not marked by extravagant celebrations, it was filled with simple togetherness and the profound understanding that significance was not measured by grand gestures, but by the bonds we create and cherish every day. This valuable lesson was learned on a quiet, uncelebrated birthday, shared with those who truly mattered.
Why More Happy Couples Prefer to Sleep in Separate Beds
According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
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