‘Families don’t have to match’ – Black couple share their journey to adopting three white children

Sadie and Jarvis Sampson tried everything for years to get pregnant, and eventually they accepted that they would only ever be aunt and uncle. Then, one day, they received a text that completely turned their world upside down.

Since getting married in January 2018, the pair has been trying to get pregnant, so when that didn’t work out naturally, they tried everything else.

The Houston mother told Love What Matters, “Ovulation tests, prenatal vitamins, cycle tracking apps, fertility monitors.”

“We didn’t even try our luck at following the unsolicited counsel of strangers, friends, and family. We tried, prayed, and waited for fourteen months. Month after Month. pregnancy test negative following negative test. It appeared like we would require help getting pregnant. We even went so far as to discuss it with medical professionals.

The couple seemed to get little assistance from the doctors. Sadie was advised by everyone that she would get pregnant if she reduced weight. Since she had no other options, she underwent gastric surgery and shed 28 pounds.

“She informed me that since she was unable to give me the fertility medication, she would refer me to a fertility specialist if I wasn’t pregnant within six months,” Sadie recalled. I was ecstatic to hear that. We finally received a response other than “no”! We were ecstatic to hear “not right now.”

Unfortunately, though, the couple felt as though they had begun over after Sadie lost the weight and they were unable to conceive.

Connecting the Dots – Adoption Puzzle Fundraising EventAs everyone is aware, we received a call regarding our little two weeks ago.

Published on Friday, August 30, 2019 by Sadie Sampson

Sadie said, “I had always felt like I was meant to be a mother.” “I was still not pregnant even though my surgeon had spent a long time to warn me about how fertile I would be following surgery. Thus, we gave up. We came to the realization that our only destiny was to be our nieces’ aunts and uncles and our goddaughters’ godparents.

The couple had just come to the painful conclusion that they would not be able to conceive when Sadie’s friend texted her to ask if they would be willing to foster a child that a couple she knew was thinking about for themselves.

At first, the couple was apprehensive since they had been instructed by a caseworker to look after the child while the mother sought therapy. The couple was concerned that they would grow overly devoted to the child. But soon after, the narrative was altered.

The caseworker stated, “The birth mother decided she would prefer you guys adopt the child instead.”

“Holy crap!!” was the first thing Sadie uttered out loud when she learned she was expecting a child.

“Overnight, we went from not having any kids to possibly fostering one to, ‘You guys are parents!’” Still in shock, I listened to the caseworker as she spoke. After hanging up, I dialed my spouse! “Baby!” They desire that we adopt the child! They want us to have kids,” I cried out. Hold on! Really? He exclaimed, “I assumed they just wanted us to foster him.” “Nope!” “They want us to be his parents,” I remarked.

Over the weekend, the couple not only processed the surprising news but also braced themselves in case the mother had second thoughts.

On Monday, the mother not only expressed her desire for them to adopt the child, but also stated that she was prepared to sign the adoption papers independently.

At 33 weeks, their son had been born—seven weeks ahead of schedule. His weight was 4 lbs. 5 oz. Sadie writes, “He fit in one of my husband’s hands.”

Sadie said, “He was so small, swaddled in a white blanket with stripes of pink and blue.” He was early, therefore he couldn’t eat on his own, thus an NG tube was coming out of his nose. But my goodness, was he adorable!

The couple was urged to create a registry after they announced their announcement on social media. In just three days, 55 of the 72 goods they had advertised had been purchased.

Following the adoption of Ezra Lee, which was completed in October 2020, the couple had the cutest family portraits shot, sporting t-shirts that said, “Families don’t have to match.”

Through embryo donation, Sadie and Jarvis became parents to twin twins, Destinee and Journey, in 2021. The black couple, adhering to their family credo, “Families don’t have to match,” gave birth to three white children: two girls and one boy.

There is just one reaction for anyone who judges this lovely family: love is the strongest foundation there is.

My Husband Left Me Looking After Our Kids for His Female Best Friend’s Wedding — I Made Him Regret It

When my husband left me sitting at home with the kids to attend his best female friend’s wedding alone, I felt a familiar pang of suspicion. But I took action, and what I discovered that night shattered our lives.

Daniel had never been good at hiding things. You’d think after ten years of marriage, I’d be used to his poor attempts at deception, but that morning, he caught me off guard. I had just come back from a playdate with the kids when I found the note on the kitchen counter.

I took the gift and went to Jane’s wedding. Be back late.

— Daniel

I stared at the note, feeling the familiar burn of betrayal rise in my chest. The gift I had spent hours picking out, the one we had both agreed was from us, not him alone. And Jane — our friend. Or so I thought.

“Mom, where’s Dad?” Timmy asked, tugging on my sleeve.

Timmy asks Elly where his dad is | Source: Pexels

Timmy asks Elly where his dad is | Source: Pexels

“He went out, sweetie. We’re going to have a babysitter today.” I forced a smile, already dialing the number of the babysitter we occasionally used.

My best friend, Sarah, had been suspicious of Daniel’s recent behavior. She was the one who first suggested he might be up to no good. I had dismissed her concerns, thinking it was just his usual lack of communication. But this? This was something else.

Elly calling a babysitter while trying to mask her growing suspicions | Source: Pexels

Elly calling a babysitter while trying to mask her growing suspicions | Source: Pexels

Balancing my dreams of returning to work and my responsibilities at home had been a struggle for years. As a stay-at-home mom, I often felt trapped while Daniel worked full-time, leaving early and coming home late.

My days were filled with diapers, playdates, and endless chores. I loved my kids, but sometimes I wondered what happened to the ambitious woman I used to be.

When we received the invitation to Jane’s wedding, I saw a glimmer of excitement. Jane was Daniel’s best friend, but also a friend of mine, so it felt like a chance to reconnect with our old social circle.

Daniel insists they are not going to Jane's wedding | Source: Pexels

Daniel insists they are not going to Jane’s wedding | Source: Pexels

I spent hours choosing the perfect gift, picturing us attending together. But Daniel shot down my hopes, insisting we stay home because we didn’t have anyone to watch the kids.

“Can’t we find a sitter, just for one night?” I had pleaded.

“No, Elly. It’s too much hassle. We’ll send the gift and our regrets,” he said, brushing off my concerns.

As the wedding approached, he reiterated his stance, and my suspicions began to grow. Why was he so adamant about not going? What was he hiding?

Elly and Daniel at loggerheads about attending the wedding | Source: Midjourney

Elly and Daniel at loggerheads about attending the wedding | Source: Midjourney

I couldn’t just sit and stew in my anger. I needed to see it for myself. I got the kids settled with the babysitter and grabbed my keys.

“Where are you going?” Sarah’s voice crackled through the phone. I had called her for a much-needed boost of courage.

“To the wedding. I need to see what’s really going on.”

At the reception venue — a wine estate — I kept a low profile. I saw Daniel almost immediately, laughing and chatting like he didn’t have a care in the world. And then there was Jane, her smile wide and dazzling, but her eyes — they held secrets.

Elly secretly attends the wedding reception, watching Daniel | Source: Pexels

Elly secretly attends the wedding reception, watching Daniel | Source: Pexels

I followed them discreetly. They slipped into one of the wine cellars, and I inched closer, peeking through the slightly ajar door. They were arguing, their voices hushed but intense.

“You said it was over with Jake!” Daniel hissed. “And now you’re marrying him!”

Jane shook her head. “I never promised you anything. But you’re here now, aren’t you, how about one last fling?”

I couldn’t breathe. I felt like I was going to be sick, but I couldn’t look away. Then, it happened — they kissed. A long, passionate kiss that confirmed my worst fears.

Elly catches Daniel and Jane in a passionate kiss | Source: Midjourney

Elly catches Daniel and Jane in a passionate kiss | Source: Midjourney

I took out my phone, my hands shaking, and recorded a few seconds. Enough to capture the betrayal. Enough to use as evidence. I left as quietly as I had come, tears streaming down my face.

Back home, I sat in my car for a long time, trying to process what I had seen. I needed a plan. I couldn’t just confront him and let it turn into another round of empty apologies and broken promises. This was bigger. This was the end.

Elly sitting in her car, grappling with the shocking betrayal she just witnessed | Source: Midjourney

Elly sitting in her car, grappling with the shocking betrayal she just witnessed | Source: Midjourney

I called Sarah. “You were right. I saw them. I recorded it.”

“Oh, Elly, I’m so sorry. What are you going to do?”

“I’m calling a lawyer.”

***

The next day, I sat in the lawyer’s office, feeling both numb and fiercely determined.

“Infidelity is grounds for divorce,” the lawyer, Melanie, said, her voice calm and professional. “But we need to build a strong case. Do you have any other evidence?”

“I’ll get more,” I promised. “Whatever it takes.”

Elly meets with a lawyer, ready to take the first step toward reclaiming her life | Source: Pexels

Elly meets with a lawyer, ready to take the first step toward reclaiming her life | Source: Pexels

I spent the next few days gathering everything I could — texts, emails, anything that hinted at their affair. Meanwhile, Daniel acted like everything was fine, like he hadn’t torn our life apart.

One evening, I couldn’t hold back any longer. “How was the wedding?” I said, launching the words at Daniel like a missile.

He looked up from his phone, surprised. “It was good. Jane looked beautiful.”

“I bet she did.” My voice was cold.

“Is something wrong?” He tilted his head, feigning concern.

“Don’t play dumb, Daniel. I know about you and Jane.”

Daniel's face when Elly reveals that she knows about his affair | Source: Midjourney

Daniel’s face when Elly reveals that she knows about his affair | Source: Midjourney

His face paled, but he quickly recovered. “What are you talking about?”

“I saw you. At the wedding, in the wine cellar, with Jane. I recorded you. Don’t lie to me.”

His mouth opened and closed, but no words came out. For once, he was speechless.

“I’m done, Daniel. I’ve contacted a lawyer. You’ll be hearing from them soon.”

He tried to protest, to explain, but I had already turned away. I wasn’t going to listen to his excuses anymore. I had kids to protect, a life to rebuild. And I wasn’t going to let him stop me.

Jane finalizes the divorce papers with her lawyer | Source: Pexels

Jane finalizes the divorce papers with her lawyer | Source: Pexels

The fight was just beginning, but for the first time in years, I felt a surge of strength and clarity. This was my turning point. I was done being the passive, stay-at-home mom who let life happen to her. I was ready to take control.

That night, I waited for Daniel to come home. I had the video cued up on my laptop, the lawyer’s contact number scribbled on a notepad next to me, and the divorce papers ready.

He walked in, his face flushed with what I could only assume was guilt masked as nonchalance.

Elly cues up the offending video for Daniel to see | Source: Pexels

Elly cues up the offending video for Daniel to see | Source: Pexels

“Elly, we need to talk,” he began, but I cut him off.

“No, you need to listen,” I said, standing up and hitting play on the video. The sound of his voice, pleading with Jane, filled the room. His eyes widened, and he looked at me, panic setting in.

“I can explain —”

“Don’t bother,” I interrupted. “You had your chance. These are the divorce papers. I’m asking for full custody of the kids, the house, and child support. I’ve already spoken to a lawyer.”

Elly tells Daniel she is done and hands him the divorce papers | Source: Midjourney

Elly tells Daniel she is done and hands him the divorce papers | Source: Midjourney

He slumped into a chair, defeated. “Elly, please. Let’s talk about this.”

“There’s nothing to talk about, Daniel. You made your choice. Now you’ll deal with the consequences.”

He spent the night packing his bags. The kids were asleep, and I prayed they wouldn’t wake up to the sound of their father leaving. By the time he was ready to go, it was past midnight. He stood at the door, his eyes pleading one last time, but I didn’t waver.

“Goodbye, Daniel.”

Elly makes her last stand and says goodbye to Daniel | Source: Midjourney

Elly makes her last stand and says goodbye to Daniel | Source: Midjourney

The next few months were a whirlwind of legal battles and emotional turmoil. I filed for divorce and presented my evidence. The court hearings were grueling, but the video was undeniable. Daniel didn’t even try to fight it.

The judge granted me full custody and a favorable settlement. Daniel’s infidelity cost him not just his marriage but also his role in the home we had built together.

I returned to work, something I had put off for years. Balancing a career and raising two kids alone was tough, but I found a strength within me I didn’t know existed. I was driven by the need to create a stable and loving environment for my children.

Elly returning to work, finding strength and creating a new life for her kids | Source: Pexels

Elly returning to work, finding strength and creating a new life for her kids | Source: Pexels

The kids adjusted to our new life quicker than I expected. They were resilient, just like their mom. And as I climbed the career ladder, I realized that I wasn’t just surviving — I was thriving.

One day, I ran into Jane at the grocery store. She looked away, her face flushed with shame. I didn’t need to say anything. My presence, my success, and my happiness spoke louder than any words could.

Elly sharing her triumph with her friend Sarah over coffee | Source: Pexels

Elly sharing her triumph with her friend Sarah over coffee | Source: Pexels

“Elly, you look great,” Sarah said over coffee. She had been my rock through everything, always ready with a shoulder to cry on or a glass of wine when I needed it.

“Thanks, Sarah. I finally feel like I’m back on my feet.”

“You’ve done more than that. You’ve rebuilt your life from the ground up.”

She was right. I had reclaimed my life from the ruins of my marriage. My revenge wasn’t about making Daniel suffer — it was about proving to myself that I could stand on my own.

And I had. I provided for my kids, achieved my career goals, and found a new kind of happiness that wasn’t tied to anyone else.

I stood tall, knowing that no matter what the future held, I was ready. I had faced the worst and come out stronger. I was a symbol of resilience and empowerment, and I would continue to fight for the life and happiness we deserved.

Elly standing tall, knowing she has reclaimed her life and future | Source: Midjourney

Elly standing tall, knowing she has reclaimed her life and future | Source: Midjourney

What would you have done? If you enjoyed this story, here’s another one for you about a husband who is caught cheating on his wife and acts as if nothing is wrong.

This work is inspired by real events and people, but it has been fictionalized for creative purposes. Names, characters, and details have been changed to protect privacy and enhance the narrative. Any resemblance to actual persons, living or dead, or actual events is purely coincidental and not intended by the author.

The author and publisher make no claims to the accuracy of events or the portrayal of characters and are not liable for any misinterpretation. This story is provided “as is,” and any opinions expressed are those of the characters and do not reflect the views of the author or publisher.

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