Phil Donahue and Marlo Thomas wrote a book about marriage. It’s called “What Makes a Marriage Last: 40 Celebrated Couples Share with Us the Secrets.” In the book, they talk about their own marriage and share secrets from other couples.
Even though Marlo has been married to Phil for more than 40 years, she admits that when she was younger, she didn’t really want to get married.
In the book, Marlo Thomas talks about how she used to think marriage was like a vacuum cleaner that sucks out all your energy and ambition. She felt like living with a jailer you had to please.
But everything changed when she met Phil Donahue. They found each other after Phil’s first marriage ended, and now they have a strong bond that has lasted their whole lives.
Phil Donahue became famous with his TV show, “The Phil Donahue Show,” which later became just “Donahue.” It ran for 29 years and was the first show to let the audience join in. Marlo Thomas was a guest on his show, and meeting her changed Phil’s life.
The couple first met in Chicago in 1977. Phil Donahue already had four boys with him, and his fifth child, a daughter, lived with his ex-wife and her mother in another place.
Marlo and Phil dated for three years before getting married in 1980 in a small ceremony with 35 people.
Marlo’s friends and family were surprised by her decision to get married, given her past views on marriage. The book tells a funny story about friends at Marlo’s bridal shower putting up quotes from her that showed her previous thoughts about marriage.
According to the book, Marlo’s mom was really surprised at their wedding and kept asking Phil, “How did you get her to do this?” Even strangers, like a woman on their honeymoon plane to Greece, were shocked and disappointed that Marlo, who was known for being independent, decided to settle down.
In the book, Marlo admits that this made her doubt her choice. She wondered if she was being hypocritical since she had criticized marriage for so long. She worried that she let down fans who saw her as a symbol of independence.
Despite the challenges, Phil and Marlo make their marriage work. They talk about the ups and downs in the book, saying that those tough times helped strengthen their bond.
In the early days of their marriage, they spent time apart because Phil was taping his show in Chicago, and Marlo was traveling for her acting career. Even though they weren’t always living together, Marlo’s aunt helped her see that marriage can mean different things to different people.
Despite the distance, Marlo and Phil made their marriage successful. And one important thing to note is that Marlo not only gained a husband but also gained children when she got married.
In a 2012 interview with AARP, Marlo Thomas talked about helping to raise Phil’s children. She knew they already had a traditional mother, so she didn’t try to take on that role. Instead, she became more like a friend to Phil’s children, just like her own mother was to her.
Marlo says that her relationship with Phil’s children is even stronger now than when she first married Phil. In the book, Phil emphasizes that Marlo spent a lot of time talking to and trying to understand his sons.
Phil and Marlo think that the key to their long marriage is the trust they have in each other. Marlo says, “You build trust when you realize that this person always has your back.”
Even though they’ve been married for over 40 years, they believe there are still more memories to create together.
Phil says that for a marriage to last, both people have to really want it. Marlo agrees and says that looking back, she wouldn’t have it any other way than being married to Phil. She points out that he has supported her in every possible way.
Marriage is a wonderful connection, especially when two people fully commit to it. This couple is truly inspiring and sets a great example for all of us. We should all aim for a relationship as successful as theirs!
Boyfriend Consistently Had Excuses for Not Inviting Me to His House, Everything Shifted When I Discovered the Reason
Just a few months ago, Jolene felt lonely and thought she might never marry. And now, she was already imagining her wedding with Steve. However, Steve still hadn’t invited her to his place, almost as if he was hiding something. Jolene feared the worst, but what she discovered still surprised her.
Jolene and Steve strolled side by side, their hands comfortably entwined as they meandered down the quiet, lamp-lit street.
The cool evening breeze gently brushed their faces, and their shared laughter seemed to echo softly into the night.
Their relationship was still fresh, only two months in, but the warmth between them made it feel as though they’d known each other much longer
Jolene glanced at Steve, a teasing smile spreading across her lips.
“You know,” she began playfully, “I still can’t get over the first time I saw your profile picture on the dating app.”
Steve grinned, his eyes twinkling with curiosity.
“Oh yeah? What about it?”
Jolene laughed, shaking her head.
“The picture of you holding up that enormous fish! I couldn’t stop laughing. I thought, ‘Who is this guy, trying to impress people with his fishing skills?’”
Steve’s face flushed slightly, but he smiled, clearly amused by her teasing.
“Hey, that was a proud moment! That fish was huge! And besides,” he added, puffing his chest in mock pride, “I thought it showed I could provide, you know? A strong, capable man bringing home the catch.”
Jolene giggled at his playful tone, and they both laughed together. The easy chemistry between them made everything feel light and joyful.
Steve leaned in, pulling her close, and their laughter faded into a soft, tender kiss.
Jolene felt a rush of warmth as Steve’s arms wrapped around her, grounding her in the moment.
But then, just as things seemed perfect, Steve pulled back slightly.
“It’s getting late,” he said gently, his eyes glancing up the street. “I should call a taxi to get you home safely.”
Jolene felt a pang of confusion at his sudden shift in tone. They were having such a nice time, and she wasn’t ready for the night to end.
“Or,” she began, trying to keep her voice light, “maybe we could share a taxi? You know, head to your place together?”
Steve’s smile remained, but his body language shifted.
He scratched the back of his neck and gave her an apologetic look. “Actually, my place is really close by,” he said. “I’ll just walk.”
Jolene’s brows furrowed slightly, but she kept her tone playful. “Then let’s walk to your place together,” she suggested, genuinely curious.
After two months of dating, Steve still hadn’t invited her over, and she was beginning to wonder why. It felt like a natural step forward, yet Steve had been hesitant.
Steve’s smile faltered just a little, and he quickly looked down at his phone, tapping away to call her a cab.
“Maybe next time,” he mumbled, not meeting her eyes.
As the taxi pulled up a few minutes later, Jolene slid into the back seat, her mind swirling with questions. She couldn’t shake the uneasy feeling that Steve was holding something back.
What was stopping him from inviting her over? Did he have something to hide, or was he just not ready for a deeper commitment?
The ride home was quiet, with only the low hum of the engine accompanying her thoughts.
As the taxi drove away, Jolene leaned her head against the window, staring out into the dark streets, wondering if she was reading too much into things—or if her instincts were telling her something she needed to pay attention to.
The next morning, Jolene couldn’t shake the nagging feeling that something was off with Steve.
After their date the night before, where he once again dodged her offer to visit his place, her mind raced with possibilities.
Was it another woman? Or was he just too shy to take the next step? Jolene felt torn between trusting him and letting her doubts grow.
Finally, she decided she couldn’t sit around wondering anymore. She needed answers.
Jolene spent the morning baking a pie—her way of having a thoughtful excuse for an unexpected visit. If things got awkward, at least she could use the pie as a peace offering.
As she carefully placed the warm apple pie into a basket, she wondered what she might discover.
Was he keeping a secret? Was her gut feeling leading her down the wrong path? Dressed in a cute but casual outfit, she took a deep breath and called a taxi, heading to the address she’d managed to find.
As the taxi pulled up in front of Steve’s house, her heart started racing. She felt her hands tremble slightly as she grabbed the basket and walked up to the door.
The house looked quiet from the outside, a simple and cozy-looking place. Jolene took one more deep breath and knocked on the door, her ears straining for any sounds inside.
She heard footsteps, and then something that made her stomach twist—a woman’s voice. And, to her surprise, a child’s voice followed. Jolene’s heart raced faster, panic bubbling up inside her.
Could it be true? Was Steve hiding a family from her this whole time? Was that why he never invited her over?
Before she could think of what to say, the door opened slightly, and Steve stood there, his face pale with shock. His eyes widened when he saw her standing there, holding a pie.
“Jolene,” he stammered, clearly unprepared for her visit.
“What are you doing here?”
Jolene’s throat tightened, her mind buzzing with a thousand thoughts. “I thought I’d bring you a pie… you know, as a surprise,” she said, trying to keep her voice steady. But then her gaze shifted past Steve, into the house, where she could hear voices.
“But it sounds like you have company. Steve, just tell me the truth. Are you married? Do you have a family?” Her voice trembled, her worst fears threatening to spill over.
Steve took a deep breath, his face full of tension. Slowly, he opened the door wider, and Jolene’s heart sank as she braced herself for the worst.
“I was married,” Steve said quietly, his voice heavy with emotion.“But my wife passed away. I’m a widower.”Jolene blinked, trying to process the information. Before she could even respond, a little girl peeked out from behind Steve, looking up at Jolene with wide, curious eyes.“Hi!” the girl said brightly, completely unaware of the tension in the air. “I’m Lucy! Who are you?”Jolene’s heart softened instantly.She knelt down, smiling warmly at the little girl. “Hi, Lucy. I’m Jolene,” she said gently, trying to steady her voice.Lucy tugged on Steve’s shirt, her excitement bubbling over.
“Can she stay for dinner, Daddy? Please?” she asked, her eyes sparkling with hope.
Steve looked at Jolene, unsure of what to say. Jolene, still processing everything, gave a small nod, signaling that she was okay.
Steve seemed relieved as he stepped aside to let her in.
As Jolene entered the house, she wasn’t entirely sure what to expect, but at that moment, she knew that everything was about to change.
Inside, the warmth of the house wrapped around Jolene like a comforting hug. The scent of a freshly cooked meal filled the air, making the atmosphere feel welcoming and homey.
As Jolene took it all in, another little girl, younger than Lucy, peeked shyly from behind the dining table, her curious eyes watching.
“That’s Carla,” Steve said softly, introducing his younger daughter. Carla gave a small, shy wave before quickly hiding behind the chair again.
Jolene’s heart melted at the sight of both girls. They were adorable, and seeing them made everything fall into place.
Steve had been protecting not just himself but his daughters too.
Lucy, full of energy and confidence, bounced over and grabbed Jolene’s hand, pulling her toward the table.
“Come eat with us!” she chirped happily.
Jolene laughed, following the little girl to the table where the meal was already set. She sat down with them, and the girls began to chatter and giggle, sharing funny stories about their day.
Jolene couldn’t help but smile at their innocence and warmth.
Steve remained mostly quiet, watching Jolene with a thoughtful look in his eyes as she effortlessly interacted with his daughters.
For the first time since they started dating, Jolene felt like she finally understood why Steve had kept his home life hidden for so long. It wasn’t about secrets or distrust.
He was protecting something far more precious—his family.
It hit Jolene that Steve wasn’t just hesitant; he was trying to guard his heart and his children’s hearts, making sure they were safe before letting anyone in.
As the meal came to an end, the girls were sent off to bed, leaving Jolene and Steve alone at the table.
Steve fidgeted with his hands, clearly nervous about the conversation they were about to have.
“I didn’t know how to tell you,” Steve began, his voice soft.
“I didn’t want to scare you away. It’s been so hard raising them on my own since their mom passed. I was afraid you’d think it was too much to handle.”
Jolene gently squeezed Steve’s hand, looking him in the eyes with a reassuring smile. “I’m not going anywhere, Steve,” she said softly.
“I was worried you were hiding something awful, but now that I know the truth… I’m just relieved.”
Steve’s expression softened, and his surprise was evident. “You’re really okay with this? With… them?”
Jolene nodded, her voice calm and steady. “More than okay. Lucy and Carla are incredible, and I can’t wait to get to know them better. And you too, Steve, in this new way.”
Steve exhaled deeply, a smile slowly spreading across his face. It was as though a weight had lifted from his shoulders.
“Thank you,” he whispered, his gratitude clear in his eyes.
Jolene felt a warmth blooming in her chest, knowing that this moment was significant for both of them.
As she left his house that night, she realized that their relationship had shifted into something deeper.
They were no longer just two people dating—they were building something based on trust, honesty, and a future that felt more real tan she had ever imagined.
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